Ramadan section I am married to a Muslim man from Egypt and I am Christian im trying so hard but need advice?

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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Am3KAFpOFUYIFzDmayiPQGPsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20090417024650AACtKTURamadan section I am married to a Muslim man from Egypt and I am Christian im trying so hard but need advice?
Dear,





Peace be upon you.





In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.





One of the 11 wives of Prophet Muhammad was a Christian and was call Ummurul Mukminin after the birth of Ibrahim.





Wabillahhitaufiq Walhidayah Wassalamu'alaikum Warahmatullahhi Wabarakatuh.Ramadan section I am married to a Muslim man from Egypt and I am Christian im trying so hard but need advice?
He is a typical eastern man . The main problem now is that you shout at him when he picks on you , I don't know but I think a wife shouldn't shout at her husband whenever he picks on her at least not every time , let him sometimes vent it without you answering back . If you want to keep with him and you say you don't want divorce which is very good from you I would then advise you to to ignore him and not respond when he is angry or when he picks on you . How about the silent treatment , make him feel guilty because you didn't get mad at him when you're supposed to .


He is the type of men who likes to criticize his partner , they are a lot in the middle east , wants his partner to be a perfectionist when he himself is not , realizing this flaw you'll be able to deal with the problem . Make him understand that you're not perfect and you're doing your best to make him happy , take an action if he keeps criticizing you by sulking him so he will not get used to do that . Do what is in your ability to be a good wife and a good house wife but you do that for yourself first to be a successful person before doing it to please him .


Bear in your mind that no one is perfect , look at the good and positive side of him and he could be better than many other men .


Being a Christian and he is a Muslim is not an issue . The issue is how to deal with his flaws . I pray everything will go well for you . Peace to you .
You just need to take a break from all this. Just go away for a while, and not let him control you and break you down. No matter how much he cries, he needs to realize that you're doing all you can to make him happy and he complains beyond that. You're the sole provider, and you have to do all the work for him, and get yelled at and accused of cheating, etc. Seriously, that's an emotionally abusive, controlling relationship. You need a ';cop out,'; just take a break..tell him how you really feel and just walk out on him for a while; he needs the time to re-evaluate himself and understand that you're putting up with as much as you can. And, he'll never learn to appreciate what he has until he experiences some loss of what he took for granted. And emotionally, it must be tormenting you to see how much he's changed over a course of months...and I understand how tiring it is to be accused and called so many rude things for stuff you never did. It's emotional abuse, and you really do not have to put up with it anymore. I don't think there's a moral obligation to stay married to an abusive person; Christian or not.
He should never be little you, abuse you, rape you, or physically hurt you. He has to respect you as a woman and human being regardless in what his culture or religion says. If he continues then divorce him. Never lose sleep over him.





He has to change and not you.
email me if you like, as I am the same.


But unfortunately, I don't know if I will help you, or confuse you.


What I can offer is sincere friendship and based on our commonality.


Salam, jude