We Want to Get Married.Please advice how to overcome the obstacles.?

In my country,parents are deeply involved in marriage.In my family,my parents want me to have a big ring%26amp;a big appartment.Over here,the groom's family pay for that stuff,so from their side,they don't want to pay that much money.Anyways,my bf%26amp;his family proposed,3 months passed by but no reply from our side was given.His dad went all nuts%26amp;told my bf that he now deproposed%26amp;will not help financially in anyway.


Real Estate are extremely expensive%26amp;no way anyone could afford them before they saved the salary of about 250 months.So without his dad's help,we can get nothing%26amp;without his dad's blessings my famiy will refuse the marriage.His mum proposed to buy us an appartment %26amp;furnish it here but be written in her name.%26amp; talk with my parents to ease the situation and the effect of his dad's refusal of our marriage when they find out.


Due to the problems going on he decided he should find another job with higher salary so my bf applied for his masters abroad%26amp;will be working part-time.We Want to Get Married.Please advice how to overcome the obstacles.?
causing problems with your family will shadow your relationship forever. you can find a solution that makes you and your bf happy. what really matters to you? getting married to your bf or getting some big huge ring? im not sure why you would want to buy a house right away. buying a house doesnt involve walking up to a register and paying with cash anyway. you make monthly morgage payments around $1300-$2000. a little more than rent. you both sound young. if a ring is to much for you, then you should really consider renting to start out. you dont have to be super duper rich to get married. this sounds like a priority issue. make it work if you want it. dont get all hung up on superficial details. wouldnt you respect yourself a lot more if you didnt need daddys money to have a happy life together? me and my wife have been happily married for 3 years, own a home, and didnt get squat from either of our parents. didnt need it, didnt want it.We Want to Get Married.Please advice how to overcome the obstacles.?
This sounds frustrating. It seems like your families have a big role in deciding whether or not you can marry, so I think the only thing would be to sit down and talk with them about how important it is to you and what your plans are.
Don't you love responses like Ronnie...sheeze...





If your both TRULY in love, than GO FOR IT, and drop the drama...elope, and be done with all the cultural semantics, and drama. There will NEVER be a perfect time for anything!!





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I HATE READING. Your question is too long. To answer your question without reading all of it, I would advise do what most normal people would do in that condition. That will be the correct thing to do. Also, if your decision conflicts with parent, choose yours ok. Best luck
If you truly love each other do what you feel is right if your family really loves you they will understand!
you just want him for money or wat
Well, im sorry, but please get your own life, you will be living the life with your parents untill 40 yrs old, maybe if you are lucky 50yrs old, but you will be living with your choozen husband for the rest of your life, decide your own life, get your own life, parent's words are for refrence, not a must to listen to them. if you think it is very important, then you might risk losing something over such a trival matter.
Just elope. Your question is too long.
What can you do when you have chosen your future husband, he has chosen you...but the parents have the final say. nothing to do except to continue to listen to your parents and love it.
Hi, You do have a big problem! It's the parents who are making things hard for you and your B.F. Your believes are very different from ours. If the parents here has any problem with the G.B. or B.F. the 2 that are in love don't care what their parents wants or thinks. They are not the ones who are marrying each other.Sometimes it's best to elope and get marry than go threw all the emotions that both families seem to have.I think in your case both parents need to get together and work something out so your B.F. and you can be happy and get marry and start a new life together. Both of you together, let both sides of parents know just how bad this is hurting both of you to be in the middle of such going on and keeps you 2 apart and their grandchildren in the future you want to have. Just tell the truth and stand by each other when you do. Stand strong and let your parents know how much you 2 love each other. Maybe this will help you out a lot,it never hurts to try specially when your so much in love. Good luck and i hope things workout for both of you. Have a good life together.


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