My girlfriend of 8 years thinks i dont love her because were not married! need advice lgbt?

okay so my girl and i have been together for 8 years next year february the 2nd actually. we live in maryland and we cant get marrried here of course its not legal ;( yet but i hope it will be in the near future. when i tell you i want to marry her so much i really so if it were legal here we would haul **** to go get married. yesterday she broke down, and didnt wanna talk to me and accused me of not loving her and not wanting to marry her after one of her friends told her on facebook that she and her gf had a ceremony after dating only two years. i really looked like an idiot considering weve been together 6 yrs more than her friend and her girlfriend! what do i do? we arent able to move to one of the states where its legal and get married i mean were in a recession and finances are tight right now. what do you guys think we should do? i mean come on i feel we dont need to be married to be validated god ive been with her 8 years come on iam not going anywhere! advice please thanks!My girlfriend of 8 years thinks i dont love her because were not married! need advice lgbt?
well u can have a ceremony and have an unofficial wedding until it becomes legal! :)





Tell her that u don't have to be married in order to love her and be in love. Its not the wedding certificate that proves that u love her, its your actions and your words! :)My girlfriend of 8 years thinks i dont love her because were not married! need advice lgbt?
Take her to Canada, Iowa Maine etc. and make an honest woman of her. If you get married in Canada all you have to do is bring in the certificate , change the name on your social security card and driver's license and you're all set. That's what my wife and I did almost five years ago
You could plan a ceremony to recognize the commitment you two have. Get her a ring if she likes that stuff, make it a day about her. When the time comes you can make it ';official'; on that piece of paper.
get married at a gay church, like the MCC. the state won't recognize it but YOU both will. or go to a state that has ss marriage- but even then your union won't be recognized in your own state. do whatever you can to get ss marriage in ALL states! luv to you both!~
-Save up money to go to another state to get married


- Write a letter to someone important who can change the law


- Make a foundation thing for you guys
Just sit her down and tell her not every couple moves as fast as some. Tell her you do love her and if it were legal or financially possible at this time you would marry her right away. If this is something you want or have not already done, get her a ring. Tell her you want to be married to her and here is a ring that symbolizes your love for her and one day it will happen for the two of you, but to please never doubt your love for her.
I personally don't believe marriage should be used to prove love. There are plenty more important things than that insignificant tradition.





It is special to have families together and announce to the world your love, but it shouldn't change any of the feelings you have for each other.





I think Id be happy to get married at some point, but my boyfriend doesn't seem to keen on the idea, he says he would if it meant a tax break, but other than that he see's no point.





It just depends on the person, just tell her you marrying her would not affect your feelings for her because what you feel for her now is more than you ever have for anything in the world.


Also explain to her the financial difficulties of it and the legal restraints. im sure she'll understand.
I'm from Romania and in my country you are not allowed to get married. But that doesn't mean i can do it!


I am planing to get a ring and take her to the sea where she loves it and ask her.


I wanna bring my best friends and tell her something beautiful, put the ring on her finger and she will do the same. This is a marriage for me. It doesn't matter if i do it in the face of God or nowhere.


She will be my wife no matter what. I don't need a paper that says that we are married. In my heart i already believe that.








Good luck my friend.





maybe this helps you ;) with an idea
FLY UP TO CANADA! just go on vacation, propose to her while you 2 are up there, and just get married at one of their gay marriage churchs, even though you are both Americans, you can go to Canada and get married and come back and America has to legally acknowledge another countries beliefs. in other words YOUR MARRIED!





the link posted below tells you everything you need to know, since your in Maryland it shouldn't cost you to much to go to Canada to set up the marriage, then surprise her when you proposer to her on vacation. and since your already there, your on your honeymoon 2!





though how you go about getting her birth certificate, with out her knowing i have no idea inless she keeps it where you live.





unfortunately as painful as it sounds, alot of people involved in the goverment, along with my professor think that gay marriage wont be legal in their lifetimes, its just as bad as abortion to some people, so is holding your breath for that really worth it? for all we know im 20 now and it wont be legal 60 years from now!, but if you go to Canada they have to acknowledge you! thats right here and now! why celiberties dont do it i have no idea, they have the money for it!





to Uav guy,some people need reassurance that you are fully committed to them for the rest of their lives, and the sign of that is marriage! but 8 whole years with out marriage is a long time, she might be afraid that your leading her on, even just a ceremony would be better then nothing
Geez, what drama. Everyone's relationship proceeds at its own pace. I'm like you, I'm going to wait until it's legal to marry my partner of 10 years. We may go to DC if it's legal there next year and do it. She should not be comparing your relationship to someone else's and coming back to you with that sort of crap. That's a bit immature and over-dramatic. Her friends' ceremony, from what you say, is not a legal marriage. That worked for them, but it sounds like you want a legal (at least somewhere) marriage. Tell her you'll marry her as soon as you can REALLY marry her. That means being able to afford the trip, the ceremony, and any celebration you might want to have. If they legalize it in DC next year (which it looks like they will do) it will make it a lot simpler for you (and me).