Get some friends and get out as much as you can. Join some groups.. get a hobby.. just be social. You'll find yourself again ... or at least a happy medium.I lost who I am after I got married....Any advice?
Don't have kids or you'll lose yourself even more.I lost who I am after I got married....Any advice?
you cant betray who you are for your marriage still be yourself within the marraige its an adjustment and it takes time but being the best you can be for your marriage will be the most important thing you can do.
I know what you are saying....you are probably just trying to please your husband and are doing things for him and not doing the things you used to like anymore. My advice is to go out and be with your friends at least once a week. In your marriage just be yourself and don't try and live up to some image of what a good wife should be. Don't try and constantly please your partner...just be yourself and be an equal partner in the marriage.
Find a group that meets one a month or once a week, regarding a hobby you enjoy, book club, card club, wine tasting, bowling, you name it its out there. Its not a shame to want to get out and get away once a week. Take time to pamper yourself, get a haircut, or a manicure or pedicure. Call an old friend and ask them to lunch. or brunch. or coffee whatever you have time for. If you are in a healthy marriage your hubby will understand. and encourage him to do the same.
get your personality back..why are you unhappy. Go out with friends..
I think there are more of us that have,just don't wnat to admit it. You and only you can change you. Be who you want to be.
Step one is you've recognized it. Now Be a little selfish and focus only on yourself. You will find you again.
I am going through the same thing too. I gave up on ';me'; to make this other person happy, and he didn't appreciate it. You need to get in touch with the person you were before, star doing old hobbies, talking to old friends, etc. Don't isolate youraelf because of him.
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