okay my wife has posted about this, but I want to get everyones perspective from my Point of view. My wife and my family (mom, dad, twin, sisters) don't get along and I am torn between my wife and my family. My wife has given me an ultimatum about my sister's wedding. She says if I go its over. I want to go to the wedding, but they say that she is not welcomed to come. This is not the first time this has happened. Last year my brother had a wedding and I went and left her at home bc she was not invited. Do I go and let her leave me or do I stay home with her if they won't let her come. She does not mind going with me if she can come, but she feels disrespected by them only inviting me and blatantly not inviting her . I think my wife is selfish? A little extra info so you know where I am coming from. My wife has said and done some pretty terrible things to my family. I should also mention, that they have also treated her pretty crappy too. She has apologized several times and they haveFamily crisis repost with more DETAILS. Married PPL advice PLS. thank you?
ok, u will report me after reading my answer, but i will write what i think about u anyway. u re the most crappiest man on earth. and crappiest husband too. it doesn't matter whether u want to go on a wedding or not and whether your relatives like her or not. she is your wife. u have to be loyal to her. and if u were loyal u wouldn't be in this situation - your relatives would respect u and your wife. cos u have been disloyal to her before they know they can offend her. not inviting her with u was an offence to her and to u. no matter whether u want to go on a wedding or not u should not go cos your wife is not invited. and u should inform your relatives about your decision. this what normal person would do. and your mother should be ashamed of herself - she brought u very not decent. and if i could talk to your wife i would advice her to dump u immediatelyFamily crisis repost with more DETAILS. Married PPL advice PLS. thank you?
You are an ***!!hole. When you got married, you chose her to be your family and you should have put the rest of your family in their place! I hope you do go and she leaves you, you have it coming. She is not selfish to want a little bit of respect and acceptance. Just so you don't think that this is just a womans point of view - my husband is sitting next to me and agrees. Since your family won't give her some respect - you should take her to the wedding and tell your family in front of her that if they don't accept her that they lose you, her, and any future kids!
When you married your wife, you made her your family..if your family won't accept her apology, then screw them.
Stand by your wife. They are being unreasonable. Also; if she is not invited, then you don't go either. You're a team, act like it.
You guys are in a horrible situation. I am so sorry! While you should always be respectful of your spouse and their wishes, your family will always be your family, no matter what. Who is to say that she won't leave you in a year from now, or 5 years from now? Then you will regret not going. You are in a no-win situation. Seems like one or the other is going to be extremely hurt in the end. I would try and plead with your family to allow her to attend the wedding, try and reach a compromise of some sort. It is not fair that you are stuck in the middle of this.
Ive been threw something similar, I was mother in laws favorite and the rest rejected me I was invited to holidays with husband but was never made feel welcome. I felt the same way you wife felt I was just there because they respected the fact that I was his wife. But I didn't want to be somewhere where someone was going to accuse me of something and cause drama when its uncalled for.(the town I lived in called my sister in law Lucifer) I never gave my husband an ultimatum but after a while I couldn't take it anymore I tried getting along with them and they didn't care I cried and cried I felt very disrespected It was like feeling empty inside, felt like I was just there and meant there and its just one person she married, not you and your family. The longer this continues You can either watch your wife hurt or let your previous family destroy your marriage because I promise you its going to. And if your other family had any respect for you they wouldn't put you and your wife threw this. If she apologized then that makes her a bigger person then they are, at least she made the first step to trying. Give her that much.
Okay so your wife, has done terrible things to them and vice versa.... Get them all together and make them talk out there problems, because it sounds like this is affecting you more than your wife or family....
You know, people do some pretty dumb things. It's in our nature. But, if she was big enough to apologize for mistakes she made - then they should be big enough to let it go, since they made mistakes as well. You should not go to the wedding without her. I know it's your family - which is why she probably apologized in the first place; because they are your family. But, if they cannot accept that she is your wife and understand that where you go, she goes - then, I would not give them the satisfaction of knowing that they are hurting her by only inviting you. She has risen above what they did to her and forgave them. She is willing to go to the wedding with you. That speaks volumes about her character. Good luck.
Been there done that. I dont know if you can win this one partner. But this might help. Blood is thicker then water. I know your wife is the love of your life and you want to keep it that way. But if you go then she said she will leave you. Well, personally, I would go to the wedding. Not to disrespect your wife, but to be there for your family. Your family has to realize that your wife is part of the family, if they like it or not. Sounds like they dont. I think its childish on her part to say she will leave you if you go. Its your family for christ sake. Your going because its a special day in your family. Some day down the road everything will be roses and cat shyt, and everyone will be happy to be together...so I say talk to the wife and tell her that you want to go but will come back to her. If she is hell bent to leave you if you go. Then that my friend is up to you. Is it worth it if she stays/goes? She married you, not your family. She only has to love you. She can be mad at them all she wants. I dont know if you have that option. If you pi$$ off one family member, EVERYONE is pissed at you. So take a step back and think about it. You should back your wife and your wife should back you.
Your wife should come first, if your family does not want your wife they don't get you simple as that. You need to stand up to your family. So the answer is you don't go.
same answer as before dude!!! stop trying to have it your way!!!!! it doesnt matter what your wife has done.. or your family for that matter...
you prob. should get a divorce then because you dont respect her and i would leave your *** too
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