Newly married couple advice on foreplay on wife? men and women's advice welcome?

My wife and I have been married for two months and life has been wonderful. We've unpacked our last box in our house, rearranged our work schedules at the hospital so that we could spend more time together, and have just been having an amazing time together as we grow more and more accustomed to our new life together. We didn't begin having sex before marriage so we've really been exploring that aspect of our relationship and its been great. My main focus as we make love is making sure she is pleased. It's the best part of it for me really. One important thing to know about my wife is that she is a bit shy, which makes her say no to one thing about sex and thats me going down on her. She gets very nervous when I begin and moves away. We've talked about it and she says that she doesn't know what it is but it makes her nervous. I'm not sure if I should just drop it or try different things.


I've talked with one of my close mates and he advised blindfolding her and doing it unexpectedly so she could see that she could enjoy it...of course that sounds a bit extreme to me and slightly wrong. I don't know though...I mean is that a way to go. Any advice on this would be great? Thank you.Newly married couple advice on foreplay on wife? men and women's advice welcome?
I agree, give her time. I think she is afraid of ';loosing control'; or going too wild, it's obviously a confidence thing. She sounds afraid of her own body. But give her time. Does she orgasm already with the fingers?. If not, its still time for some more exploration.





The blindfold idea is stupid for HER, it will make her feel even more ';exposed'; and out of control. Shy people are afraid of OTHERS watching. So why don't YOU blindfold?. That way you are going to give her privacy to do (for instance) whatever faces she wants to make, and it will be more private.





Another way, less pressured, is to just go under the sheets so you don't look at her reactions. Try proposing this to her when the time is right, howeverer DO NOT PRESSURE HER. It will come with time.





Good luck!Newly married couple advice on foreplay on wife? men and women's advice welcome?
Blindfolding her would actually be the smartest way to get her started. It would also give her a greater sense of freedom since she's shy. You can introduce the blindfold as a surprise, and after introducing the blindfold, you can try tying her up next. Women like that kind of stuff as long as you make sure you give her lots of kisses and touch her a lot. Be very affectionate with her to make her feel more comfortable around you.
congrats!!





some women dont like it, some do. just depends. but it does seem like she is just being shy and would actually enjoy it if she gave it a shot.





my best advice is play around in the dark, it might make things easier for her, and try to not go straight into it. kiss her lower belly, thighs, all the things down there, its kinda a teaser but it will ease her into the idea and i'm sure she will enjoy it a lot. :)





good luck!!
Give her time to get comfortable with her sexuality...she's new at this, remember! Stay away from that issue for awhile, learn what pleases her by manual stimulation, as far as pressure, etc...





Then, if still important to you, tell her that you would like to do it and that it would please you. She may say yes to please you and get a nice surprise herself :)





Just remember to be patient, don't make a big deal of it!
Sexual repression is one reason people postpone sex. She may get passed that. She may not. People who love sex, have sex.





It's HORRIFYING that you are talking to your friends about going down on your wife. Does your shy wife know that???? You need to grow up and protect her privacy in your marriage.
I would drop it--for now. You have only been having sex for a couple of months. Let her get used to things in degrees and don't force the issue. It may end up not being her cup of tea. I'd give it a few months, and then maybe try again.
The only result I can foresee of your blindfold idea is that she gets mad, cries, and doesn't trust you. Try something else.
any romantic gestures can get the ball moving. Im also shy. plan a romantic evening at home, maybe a bubble bath? cook her dinner. Let her make moves on you?
you work at a hospital, have someone there recommend a good book. or a counselor.
Don't make her do anything she doesn't want too, it will all come naturally when other things start to get boring.
Take it slow. One day it will happen and she will see what she has been missing. Start by kissing her belly and hips.
Sex toys are awesome and a great way to begin!
I can bet her problem is that she is shy about her ';odor';. I know it sounds a bit touchy, but with most woman it is a concern. Try proposing using some flavored oils or even whipped cream...she may feel more comfortable. I am sure she doesn't want to bring this up at all as it would be very embarrassing to her. Verbal assurance from you would help greatly, such as telling her how great she tastes and how much you love doing that for her. you may finbd the shyness will go away for her very quickly!
For some women that might work, but for others it really would piss them off. Quite a risk if you ask me.


I remember that oral sex was something I really had to get used to when I started to make love. Give her some time, don't push it. Lick every part of her body except ';there';. Buttocks are usually very sensitive, so is the lover part of her belly. In the end she'll be begging you to do it. That is, when she's done with all the voices in her head telling her it's bad and she can't enjoy that.