Advice on marrying someone in the army?? ppl that is married or have been married before?

well 22 and he is 30.


when he comes home from training we is getting married....well i have never been married before and he haven't either.....i just really would like some advice on getting married at a young age as well as to someone in the army.Advice on marrying someone in the army?? ppl that is married or have been married before?
Ok some ofthese posters really don't know what they're talking about. There are alot of great guys in the military...ones that don't cheat on or abuse their wives. In fact I know more strong military families than I do civilian ones. We're a different breed. It takes a tough person to be able to love and be married to a soldier. You'll have to realize that his time is not always his own and that Uncle Sam demands alot. That means long periods of separation, long periods of time where you are worried out of your mind. You need to make sure you can deal with that. If you have times where you feel overwhelmed there are resources that will be available to you (individual and family counseling) If you need those services take advantage of them.


Being married to a soldier has it's definite hardships but for me those hardships are often outweighed by the overwhelming pride I have in him and in what he does.


If you really love this guy and want to marry him then your age (which isn't young by army wife standards btw) won't matter and what he does for a living won't matter. You'll learn to adjust your life to whatever gets thrown your way (and trust me alot of things will get thrown your way)


Good luck! And congrats on getting married! ;-)


.Advice on marrying someone in the army?? ppl that is married or have been married before?
being married to a military man was the most difficult, stressful, abusive relationship I have ever been in.





Divorced only after 6 years but the divorced saved my life.
Just know that you will be spending a lot of time apart while he is in the Army. This can be very very difficult on a young marriage. Make sure your love is strong enough, and that your heart is prepared to work hard.
Here are some words of wisdom from an Army wife of almost 10 yrs.





1. Sooner or later he will deploy. He may or may not come back. He will be different when he comes back.


2. The Army comes first. It's the wife and you're really just the mistress and sometimes that b-tch gets all the attention.


3. Keep busy(especially when he's deployed).


4. Be supportive. Don't nag. Always be honest about how you feel.


5. Don't cheat.





Best of luck to you.
Well, I would suggest that you keep your identify that means keep something for yourself. Dont become dependent on him totally. I would also ask how long you've known this guy? I mean he's 30 and you're 22? That's a little bit of a difference but I mean hopefully you know each other well? I would also get an education, your grammar is.....a bit messy for lack of a better word.
If you decide to marry or not marry him that should depend on the relationship. That being said it is going to be extremely hard. Currently the Army is sending troops on 15 month deployments. That is such a long time to be away from someone. While he is gone you will develop your own routine and when he get back his presence will disrupt your routine. People are coming back from deployments with a lot of mental issues. Combat is very hard on the mind and body. A lot of Army marriages end in divorce and there is a lot of cheating going on. I don't want to scare you though. I am currently in the Army and my husband just got out. People do make it all the time and are extremely happy. Just know that marriage can be hard, and it's even harder when the Army is involved. Be strong and remember your love and you should do fine. I wish you the best of luck for a happy life.
I do not know how much you have experienced, but there is a lot of life to live before you settle down. When you do settle down, you don't want to have regrets.


A military spouse is a special person. If he is stationed nearby, go visit him. There will be some one in his platoon, company, or battalion that will have a wife that can talk to you about what to expect.


It is a big decision, don't take it lightly.
I am not going to lie......the military life is HARD. It takes a special type of person to be able to do it....You have to be seperated for long periods, you have to constantly move. When your husband is deployed, the threat of something happening to him is a reality and you are going to worry. It is hard so very hard, but you also get the perks.....Moving to new places, trying new things, everytime he comes home after a long seperation it makes the sparks just fly like crazy. If you both are committed, honest, and trust eachother fully, then there shouldn't be too many problems. You have to really trust eachother though and have the ability to go for long periods without the physical attention, whether it be sex or just cuddling and kissing. You have to be able to go for long periods without much communication, as you don't get much time on the phone with them either. You also-if you want kids, have to be willing to raise them on your own a lot of the time. If it is something you can handle, then great. Just be prepared for a hard road, but if you two love eachother, even the hard road aint that bad.
Marrying any military personnel is, to a large degree, like signing-up yourself. He does not have the liberity to quit and seek emplyment elsewhere. He has a written and signed commitment, which Uncle Sam exspects completed. He weares a uniform, not a suit to work. He places his life on the line, while we enjoy the freedom that he is providing our citizens. Our country owes much to men and women of such excellent caliber. They, truely, are the keepers of democracy, as we know it today.


The military moves families from country-to-country and base-to-base, so stay packed. It is hard not being able to settle down and plant roots, somewhere, but that's a part of the price you pay.


You do get to travel, so be actively involved with where he may or may not apply for his duty station. Think of it as a paid vacation.


It might present a problem raising children, since you'll be away from your family, but think of it in this way, how many American children are afforded the opportunity to be born in another country and can learn multiple languages? Few.


After 20 years, you guys can retire. Whow, 38 to 40 and job-free! Amazing, no?


Always take time for each other. Make him aware that you are genuinely interested in what he does plus in him, as a person. Remember that you'll be marrying a man, not a machine.
dem boyz aint for marrying
.... I have heard nothing good ....





My friend dated about 5 completely different army guys and they ALL cheated on her and had a wife or gf at home!





Another friend got married to one and he went off and cheated on her in afghanistan ....





all these guys were around 20-26 and the girls were 20-24