Getting Married Soon -- Advice?

Hi everyone, in a few short weeks I will be getting married to a wonderful girl who I've been with for almost 3 years. I am 25 and she is 24, we have both graduated college and have started our careers. However, it seems like whenever I talk to someone, they say ';you guys are crazy, you are too young!'; or ';why are you rushing, you should wait a few years'; These statements have come from friends and family alike.





Now, I could see if we were teenagers, or even still in college, but we have been out of school for a few years now and are well into our careers. My question is, are we too young? Should we have waited a few years? I'm even starting to doubt this myself after hearing it so much. Thanks in advance for the input.Getting Married Soon -- Advice?
Comparatively speaking, you are young. People are getting married at older ages now.





However, I don't think you're too young to get married. If you're sure she's the one for you - then go through with it. :)Getting Married Soon -- Advice?
Go for it! Forget about what these other people are telling you and take a look at the relationships there in...I find a lot of people in not so happy relationships often say things like what you're hearing, without having any idea of the happiness and love you 2 share. I was engaged 7 weeks after meeting my fiance, you know what, NO ONE said anything like that to us and have all been so supportive, but, all of them are ';Happily'; married/involved. Don't let other people influence you and don't risk screwing up a beautiful life because of other peoples negativity. Best wishes to both of you!
Only you know the answer in your heart - is that why you've asked the question?





My advice is the old adage ';marry in haste repent at leisure'; - is there a reason you can't wait? But if you're both excited and happy about doing this, and it's for the right reasons, I say go for it. I waited till I was 30, and I wish I'd done it sooner.
My daughter and son-in-law married when they were 21 and 24. Both had finished college and my son-in-law had his medical degree. They have been very happily married for 7 years now. I think it all depends on whether or not you feel that you are through playing the field and are truly ready to commit to one person. If you have doubts about this you need to talk with your fiancee. Maybe she is feeling the same way. However, you should know that having doubts as the date approaches is a very normal thing . Marriage is a serious step and should be given a lot of thought. Only you know what is in your heart.
No you are not to young. If the both of you feel as though you are ready bump what anyone has to say about it. I am 23 and my husband is 24 we have been married fro 5months now and everyone told us the same thing. Why not wait. My advice to you is if you feel that the both of you are ready, go ahead. You are not marrying everyone else this is between the two of you. Best of luck!!!
Dude, you go all in. It sounds to me like you are going about this the right way... you have both graduated and are in a position to create a great life for each other and for kids. Just always be there for each other and support he goals and dreams as if they were your own. You are not too young, this is the greatest time.... you are young and strong and happy! I say enjoy a year and a half or so of being married and sharing love... build a foundation and then work on children. You should be confident and ruled by love..... Go For it!
I cannot understand why you want to get married - stay together yes but marriage at this early stage is a waste of money that will be expensive to get out of if things go wrong.


Three years is not long enough to be sure at your ages, you are still developing so why take the plunge?
I heard that the average age to get ENGAGED in Canada is 29. I am 25 and have been engaged for 3 months, I'll be marriied by 27 or 28. People do get married later now.


My fiance will be 34 when we get married.
Don't doubt your self. I got married when I was 22.......I got the same things from everyone.....everybody told us we were too young. Being married is awesome! If you love her and want to marry her then do it.....don't listen to them.....good luck!
Why are you listening to these people ?


If you have found ';the one'; then nothing anyone will say will make any difference.


I dont think you are too young anyway.


Good luck for the future.
Advice is like asses everyone has one. I say have a fabulous wedding and go out single with a big blast. Good luck to you and your future wife!
Don't let people change your mind.You are not too young. You have a career a woman you love by your side.I envy you guys.Go ahead, boy...


Congatulations!
Go with your heart not with the voice of others.
People so many of them of real jackasses. Just like donkeys, they are. Lazy, unstable, and just want to ruin your day.





Marriage is the hardest thing you will ever enter into.


It is a daily chore, with some great days, some horrible, and stressfull day, some days that are like oh, hum,


Sometimes you'll like at eachother and be like crazy in you love, sometimes you'll look at eachother and just seen straight through them.





Marriage can either be the best relationship you ever had, or the hardest, or worst at the same time.





If you do persue to get married: CONGRADULATIONS!.


and keep eachother close.


Discuss every little issue:


Do you want to engage in friendships with the opposite sex?


Do you want to have separate email accounts?


Do you want to have secret email accounts?


Do you want to have boy/girl nights out *(away from eachother)?


Do you want to have separate holidays?


Or getaways with friends?





Discuss these things in great detail.


Learn eachothers communication language.


Learn how to fight and agrue in a healthy and positive manner.








And never ever listen to anyone outside of your marraige.





Good luck and no, you are not too young.
I got married at 20, to a 26 year old. We've been married 5 years now... I don't regret it at all. I had people telling me the same thing, but I knew in my heart that I was ready. Listen to your heart, not other people. People these days are just too jaded when it comes to marriage, saying its a lost cause since most end in divorce. And I feel sorry for them, b/c most of them don't know how great it is to be 100% confident that your husband will always be there, that he isn't leaving. Now go do that for your future wife, and good luck to you both.
I got married when I was 18 (HUGE mistake!!!!) We fought like cats and dogs and it was just an unpleasant expericne for the both of us. Fast foward to today, almost 7 years later, and we're 25, we own our own home, we're having a baby in a week or so, and we are both settled into our own carreer paths.





If you think you're ready for it, then do it!!!! You aren't teenagers as you said, you both sound like you have a good head on your shoulder, and things should be fine! Don't listen to your family or friends, talk to your fiancee. If she agrees to it, then do it. You'll be married only to her, not the collective family.





Also know that marrage is indeed work. It will take two of you, giving 100% each to make everything work. Don't give up, don't get a divorce when the going gets tough. Work through your problems. In reality, there are very few problems that cannot be worked through if the two of you are willing to do so.
It's more about maturity and mutual goals. I think at your age, having already started a career, marriage and family is a natural next step.


My advice on marriage...


1. Never stop dating- She was your girlfriend first. The way you treated each other while you were dating is what brought you this far. Don't stop because you heard the words ';I do'; because she can always change her mind.


2. Remain good friends- Every day there are going to be challenges and joys. Make sure to always share them with each other. Don't limit yourself to being a shoulder for her to cry on. She'll still want someone to cheer her on when things are going well, too.


3. Only raise your voice to say ';I love you';- When you fight, fight quietly. When you love, love fiercely and with everything you have.


Congratulations to you both!!
No I personally do not think you are too young - you seem to know what you are doing. Besides I agree with you, you already know your career path and this is a different case than just being out of college and not knowing what you want to do in life.





On the other hand, let me warn ya of the potential problems:





- Your career paths/job roles/location etc may change in the next 5-6 yrs, which is when employers will put you in a pre-defined job role. When that happens, one or the other may find an issue in the ';change'; in lifestyle.





- Both of you might feel that you have not dated enough ppl/done enough single things in life and this may come back to attack you at a future time. A good idea is to give yourself alone time on a regular basis and to ensure that you have a strong friends circle.
First off, you are FAR from young. Don't listen to others' opinions. What matters is what YOU feel is right for you and your fiance. People can't tell you what to do as everyone is different and you're 25 years old! I can tell you this because my husband and I have been married for 4 weeks and we're both 20 and neither of us are through college. Alot of people including my family said we were much too young, but his dad was totally behind us 100% and just the support of just one person totally helped us out. We both work; me making $7 an hour working 30-35 hours a week and him making $8 working 39-40 hours a week. We were able to pull together one of the nicest weddings alot of our friends had seen in a long time.





Ya'll are NOT too young....especially since ya'll are both through college and halfway to 30! People seem to have this crazy idea that they can ';be together'; for like years and years and years and not get married because people say not to but if ya'll are ready, GET MARRIED! If anyone tells you otherwise don't listen to it. Ya'll are adults and perfectly ready to get married! Go for it, don't wait any longer!!
if you know you do and shes the girl you want to spend the rest of your days with do it! Do NOT pay any attention to what everyone else thinks or wants no one is in that boat except for you and her. I think 25 ish is a wonderful age all around and you seem to have your heads on straight, best of luck and happy wedding wishes:)
Here's the deal... Marriage is never what anyone believes it is when they are going into it. If I can be candid... It sucks! I've been married 20 years and there is nothing good about being with someone who will ultimately be your biggest critic. To put it in perspective go back to when you were about 9 years old, remember how your mother spoke to you, i.e. ';that shirt doesn't match, ';slow down when you eat';, ';why did you leave that dish on the counter'; etc., etc. etc. Also, like your mother she will need to know what time you will be home from work, why you decided to got out with your Friends instead of with her, etc. No matter how hard you try she will ultimately be unsatisfied and at the beginning you will try everything to make her happy - You're running in place my man - won't happen!


I know you think ';this will be different, she's really cool'; but like the rest of us you'll find out the hard way.


Run dude!
I was 22 when I got married the first time and no it didn't work out but that doesn't mean it won't for you. If she is wonderful and you love her, then you should marry her. Great girls are hard to find these days.


Here is what has worked for me. I have a fabulous marriage. We are both 29 and have been married for 2 years.





There are a million little details as to why I have the marriage that I do. Now I am no expert on relationships and marriage but I do know what it takes to keep mine alive, loving, kind, caring, passionate, romantic, interesting, fun, profound, giving, and all that other really, really great stuff.


We have kids, we have bills, we have jobs, we have a LIFE, we have what millions of other people in this world have, but we have never got lost in it all. We have never lost sight of who we are as individuals and as a couple. We are very happy. We are very much in love.


Our marriage is the most important thing to us. We put the effort into making it what it is. Making love does not just happen in the bedroom. It happens all day, every day. We do everything together, when we are not at work. We spend every moment we can together. We connect several times a day. We say I love more times then I can count. We are silly together, we make each other laugh. We have some pretty wild conversations on a daily basis. We respect each other, which is why we are so good to each other. We go to bed together every single night. We do the little things for each other still. We flirt with each other. We make love as much as we can. We talk about everything. We have a lot of romance. We love to slow dance, write each other love letters, watch sappy movies, hold each other, kiss, snuggle, gaze at each other. We have a hell of a good time together. I cook dinner and serve him first...before the kids, before me. We rub each others backs and heads, just sitting on the couch. We are very affectionate. We have real love and real happiness.


We keep things alive. We keep talking. We keep things interesting. We have a love unparallel to anything else in this world.


There is a lot of things that you can do to keep your marriage strong and vibrant and exciting and happy and loving but you 2 both have to make it the most important thing to you guys. No matter what...no matter what.