I need some advice. A friend of mine has been seeing a married man, what advice should i give her?

seriously i'd say don't give her any at all she won't listen and will only resent you for doing it just tell her that you will be there when she needs you caus she will.I need some advice. A friend of mine has been seeing a married man, what advice should i give her?
If taking a moral stand is more important than being her friend, then take it. If your friend is more important, state the obvious and let it be. We all learn by trial and error.





Added: She is not the bad person in this and it is not her that is ruining any relationship; it's the husband. He's made a decision that affects his family. She just happens to be enabling it.I need some advice. A friend of mine has been seeing a married man, what advice should i give her?
there's no need 2 tell her that wat she does is wrong coz im sure she's well aware of it.





just tell her she shld b ready 4 d consequences
Tell her once that having an affair with a married man is not right and it won't last long. Tell her to stop the affair NOW because she may not realize it but she is destroying a family - taking away the father of his kids, and the husband of his wife.





Would she be happy if a woman does the same thing to her and her family in the future?
Stop!





He is married.





Find someone who is free, not a liar and a cheater.
You know, that's so weird because a week ago i was having the EXACT SAME problem with my friend. She is also seeing a married man and I'm like thinking 'What has happened to my friend and why is she doing this to herself'! So anyway, i sat her down and told her about the baddies of this whole thing of being a mistress and this is what i said:





*I asked her how she would feel if she was married one day and her husband had a mistress. NOT GOOD!


*That if she thinks she can have a good relationship with this man, then she is wrong because how does she know that the married guy is going to stick to her only! I mean, he will run off with another mistress! Once a cheat, always a cheat!


*It is sinful!


*She should rather find an UNmarried guy and SINGLE guy and have fun with him. I mean, NO STRINGS ATTACHED.
If he see you he is seeing others don't be fooled he's a cheater and will cheat on her too.
The best advice?





';Stop seeing a married man. If he isn't loyal to his wife, he isn't gonna be loyal to you. DUH!';
Tell her its not always great being 2nd on a priority list.
leave your friend alone. everyone fights their own battle.
find out if you can get some of the action
If he cheats now how will she be able to trust him in the future not to cheat on her at some point. Is this how much value he puts on his relationships and commitments
Stay away, dont ruin a perfectly good marriage, and besides he will never leave his wife for her, just aint worth it.
IF they cheat on the wives, they'll cheat on the g/f..ask her, how she'd feel if she was this guys wife and there was another woman..hits the mark!
Your advice to her should be that she is helping this man commit adultery. This man may or may not have children and no doubt this is or will be effecting them as well. You need to tell her that she must stop as soon as possible. If they want to be together then they should do it the legal way and get everything out in the open. If she failed to stop then I would keep my distance from them both till they fall. Then I would be there for her.
Don't get caught. Use a condom. Other than that, keep out of it, did she ask for your advice?
Your friend is wrong, especially since she knows this guy is married. There is absolutely no excuse for going out with a married man. This relationship won't go anywhere, if the man is cheating on his wife then he will end up cheating on your friend. Doesn't your friend have any consideration for the guy's wife? I don't know if the guy has kids, but if he does then your friend is playing a part in causing pain to them in addition to his wife. If he's the type to cheat, does your friend even know that she's the only ';other woman.'; My friend was going out with a married man and she had the nerve to be mad when she found out he was ';cheating on her'; with a third girl. Stupid, stupid, stupid. Your friend is going to end up with a broken heart (and really, that's what she deserves), so I guess if she won't listen to you about dumping the guy, stand by to help her pick up the pieces when it all blows up in her face.
well brat...everybody knows that being in love is all wrong when it comes to married one.





but dont let her feel guilty for having love feelings...but show her the mistake for being fall to the wrong person.





if she's married, she definately don't want her husband cheating on her too, right?





if she keep pursue her relationship with this married guy then...she gotta be ready for all the risks...





remind her...coz eventhough you're trying to stop her, it will never will get trough until she realize what she's doing wrong.
He is cheating on his wife to be with her, and what dose she think is going to happen to her? once a cheater, always a cheater.
to find a single man and stop being a HOME WRECKER
Well, I would inform the man's wife about it and see what she does.
explain that the married man is just using her and he will never his wife.
TELL HER THAT ALL THESE THIGNS ARE NOT GOOG SIGN OF OURSELF MARRIED LIFE IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR MARRIED MAN JUST THINK YOU ARE MAKING TROUBLE FOR HIS FAMILY MEMBERS EVEN FOR YOUR SELF NEVER KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP WHICH GIVES YOU HURTY ALWAYS KEEP THAT RELATIONSHIP WHICH GIVES PLEASURE BUT THIS RELATIONSHIP GIVES ONLY HATE %26amp; ANGER STOP ALL THIS DONT MAKE YOUR LIFE %26amp; ANY OTHERS MEASURABLE
Just tell her that she needs to get a reality check. Been there and done that. And she will get upset with you. But when it comes to an end. Don't say I told you so. Just be there for her.
i think she's old enough to think for herself
Enjoy his company if she must, but don't believe any of the lies he is telling her about leaving his wife for her. As long as she is OK with being used by him for his pleasure, she should go about her business with him. All of this is being done as consenting adults.
DON'T GET CAUGHT!!!!!
tell her that married man won't leaves his wife and family one.
Please tell her to stop seeing this married man. My husband told me he would never cheat on me but he did. He left me suddenly and without warning when he got a girl pregnant. He told me at first he just wasn't happy being married and having the responsibility of a wife and family. I was devastated. I found out about the pregnant girlfriend after our divorce. He married her three months after leaving me. He was sleeping with me not only when he was sleeping with her, but through the first two months of her pregnancy. Disgusting. Since then I have learned he cheated on me throughout our marraige with other girls. Had he not gotten this girl pregnant we would probably still be together, and I would still be in the dark.





I don't think he really ever wanted to leave me- just have his cake and eat it too.





This girl isn't special, she just got pregnant. He'll resent her even more than he did me because he's truly trapped now. She may feel like she's won a real prize and that he must love her a lot to leave his wife, but she will learn in time what a monster he can be. Anyone capable of betraying the very person they vowed to cherish is a monster. No healthy person starts an affair before they end their marraige. It's a very weak and twisted thing to do.





Anyone willing to start a relationship with a married person should prepare themselves for the consequences. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.





And tell your friend for what it's worth that the pain that his actions caused me is overwhelming. I have been suicidal. I have woken up crying in my sleep. It has been nine months since my divorce and I'm not at all ';over it';.





No one has the right to hurt another person as much as he AND this other person has. What happens when your friend stops being the fun, exciting escape, and starts having expectations and needs, and the real relationship starts?





It's cruel to be involved with someone else's husband. A cheating spouse will say anything to justify their behavior. I was such a good wife to my husband, and there was no reason to cheat- we had so much going for us. He just couldn't be faithful. You're friend can't know what his marraige is really like- do you think he would tell her the truth if he knew he had no real reason to do this other than selfishness, lack of impulse control, or a low self esteem?





Whatever your friend think she sees in this person it is all based on lies whether she wants to see reality for what it is or not. She should run, not walk, away from this situation.





I really hope for the sake of all concerned that she does.
Knock it off....to much drama.
Watch yourself!! You will get hurt!