I need Bridal Shower advice I am getting married soon?

I hate the idea of people buying me gifts before the wedding and then getting me something for the wedding. And I feel that Registries are wrong. Am I just being overly nice or are these registries really rude? I would like to hear peoples opinions on this. either way I can't get out of the bridal shower. im just trying to figure out how to get out of the registry process. thanksI need Bridal Shower advice I am getting married soon?
Why are you having a shower if you do not want gifts? A bridal shower is a traditional party where the host and guests ';shower'; the bride with gifts to celebrate the beginning of her new life. People want to celebrate the happy occasion with you! Why deny them that?





People are not obligated to purchase a gift from a registry, and you having a registry does not mean that you are demanding or expecting gifts. At your shower and wedding, there will likely be guests or future relatives that have never met you - and a registry can be very helpful for them. It's just a practical thing. Not everyone is a talented ';gifter'; who can come up with meaningful and amazing gifts. Registries allow people to give something that they know will be used and appreciated.





Hope you have a wonderful shower and wedding! Enjoy!I need Bridal Shower advice I am getting married soon?
You're not wrong and you're not being too nice - your feelings about gifts are totally justified. But do keep in mind that many people enjoy giving gifts, and take pleasure from outfitting you as you begin married life. Even if you plaster ';No gifts, your presence is gift enough'; all over your invitations, some people will get you things anyway - and I'm sure that you will be kind enough to accept them graciously.





You are under no obligation to do a registry. If you don't want one, don't make one. Done.





For your shower, either express to the hostess that she is to emphasize ';no gifts, please, seriously'; to the guests, or give it a theme that negates the need for a gift. For example, the hostess can ask each guest to bring a favorite recipe as a ';gift.'; That way, the guests get to share something with you, but it costs them nothing.
you don't need to register, but the idea behind the registry is so people know what you like/want/need without having asking you. some people are starting from total scratch when they get married and could really really use just plain dishes over fine china. and with so many choices now an days you really don't want to end up with 5 different sets of dishes because everyone had the same idea. (even with a registry I ended up with 3 different crock pots.) so that's how a registry is used, not just because you're demanding that they buy THIS brand of towels or THAT dish.





you could make a registry in case you have someone that pushes for it. and just use the excuse of ';well we really didn't make one'; and if they start making comments about how they won't know what to get for your wedding, then you can add that you have a small one at such and such store.
I'm with you. I HATE registries. IMO, they are rude and presumtuous and it's not like it's helping anyone, the merchants are helping themselves and even go further with their marketing with unwanted solicitation afterwards.





Unfortunately, people now expect you to have a registry. I had one because some guests were actually complaining that we didn't have one. turns our that those that complaint didn't buy from the forementioned registry and most people gifted money.





I beleive that gifting is to the discretion of your guests. Go to the bridal shower and when they ask what do you want, tell them, your presence is enough gift for me (and mean it). Otherwise, you can give them some general guidelines.





Good luck
There is no requirement to register anywhere. However, it can be a real PITA when you get 4 or 5 coffee makers and 3 toasters. Registering prevents duplicates and people buying you queen size sheets when you have a king size bed. It is nice to give people some ideas of what you would like to give, it makes it easier for people to choose what to buy you.





If you don't want someone giving you a gift before the wedding and then again at the wedding, then don't have a shower.
People are divided into two camps on this one. Some say registering is rude because it implies you expect gifts. Some people think NOT registering is rude because they won't know what to get you :)





That and they want the joy of seeing you opening up a package and smiling ( believe it or not).





I'm of the opinion that you cannot ever please everyone. If you do not want to register, don't do it. But don't be surprised if tons of relatives wind up calling you/your mom/your sister trying to figure out what the heck to get you.
You dont need to register. A shower was thrown for me, and I hadnt registered, but people still brought gifts... really thoughtful ones, actually.





Speaking as a guest, I do love a shower! If its someone I am close to, I might be able to come up with a unique gift. Otherwise, I am likely to choose from the registry for the shower, and give money at the wedding.





Weddings are a happy time. I give gifts because I want to, not because I feel obligated. The mere existence of a registry doesnt rub me the wrong way at all.
I felt weird about it too, but I had to go registry shopping. People are going to want to buy you something, so why not have it be something you like and want rather than what they want to get you? Imagine everyone starts buying you all different colors of things for your kitchen or bedding etc and then you have to go back to the store to return/exchange it.





Why not pick one of those all in everything stores and make it easy on yourself? Pick Bed, Bath %26amp; Beyond and maybe Target. It's really fun once you start doing it. Usually, they give you this scanner and you just walk around scanning the bar codes of the things you want. You can then check online all your items in your registry.





I went with my sister (MOH) and bridesmaid. That made it a little easier of a day I went shopping. They were there to help me pick coordinating colors etc.





For the wedding day, most people give you a card with money. For my wedding day, I only received one actual gift. The rest was money.





GOOD LUCK!
I think that you're looking at registries the wrong way. They are intended to assist your guests in purchasing a gift for you that you actually need/want. Either way you will receive gifts at the shower. Registering simply helps make it easier for the guest to select a gift for you and prevents you from having to return 10 blenders. I love when people register for weddings/baby showers. I would much rather buy something for them that they want then guess.
We didn't have a registry either. We were just happy to gratefully accept any gifts people chose to give us! We got a wide variety of things! Even if we got things similar to one another, we just put them away for later years - then you just rotate items!


If someone asks what you want, have some answers ready. I always said 'whatever you chose will be fine/lovely'. If someone pressed - and I had one friend who did - I was specific and said 'we need bedsheets, double size' - and she got us a really nice set!
I know people on here are always going on about registries being rude, but I'll tell you, as a guest to a shower/party/wedding I love registries because it takes the guess work out of what to buy! I don't have to figure out what color their bathroom is painted or if they already have five toasters. I find registries very helpful!
You are being hypersensitve for no reason.