Im gay and dating a married man. Advice?

So, finally I met a guy I was able to trust. A guy I really enjoy spending time with. And I fell in love. We've been dating for 2 months now. We are both very discreet due to our jobs and families.





So, yesterday, after saying he loved me, he told me he is married and has a 2-yo child. I was shocked, as I didn't see this coming. And I am not sure how to react. It wouldnt change things as they are going now, but it surely affects our future as a couple.





I am now very confussed about this, i am not sure if I have anything to lose in this. I sense that he is at least as confused as I am, not sure what to do, not knowing what to expect out of this.





Today he told me he regrets getting married, but now he has a commitment he must live up to. So he plans on staying married till his wife finds out about his gay part I think, and then who knows.Im gay and dating a married man. Advice?
Leave him. Period.





He's lying to you. He's lying to you about everything.





He's lying to his wife. He's lying to her about everything.





You are hurting yourself. This situation will only lead to pain. He WILL hurt you. Your self esteem will suffer. You will not be able to form a good relationship while you are wasting yourself on this bad one.





You are now part of hurting his wife and family. It's one thing to have been deceived, but now you know. Every day that you continue helping this situation get worse will be more guilt you will have to carry.





If he loved you, he wouldn't treat you this way. IF he loved his wife and family, he wouldn't treat them this way. He doesn't love anyone. His behavior is completely self-serving.





Even if he leaves her for you, which he already said he doesn't want to do (is that love?), you would be in a relationship with someone capable of lying and cheating on someone they are supposed to love.





He has some real work to do before he is worth anyone's time.Im gay and dating a married man. Advice?
I do that a lot, just be very discreet. You're doing such a selfless service for the poor guy. Be prepared to be a bowling buddy or something.
leave his ***, one thing, he isn't willing to leave his wife for you. That there will tell you that she is more important than you... if he wanted to be with you fully he would leave her in an instant. Two, he has a child, hate to say this but if you stay you'll ruin his marriage and give this child a broken home to grow up in... which could increase the child's chances of alcoholism and drug use. Do you want to take responsibility for this child's life? Are you prepared to potentially harm this child for the sake of yourself? Three, you'll hate yourself for breaking up a marriage between two people, the wife will hate you, and he might not stay around after he leaves her.





This is a no-brainer, leave his ***, he's a cheater and if he's willing to cheat on his wife, then he'll sure as hell be willing to cheat on you.
I think you have just found yourself in the same awkward position as an ';other woman';. (Don't mean any disrespect, there's just no appropriate term to describe the situation you're in) I think that any promise he makes to you will be a lie and he'll never leave his wife, yet expect you to wait for him to come around whenever he gets the urge. I think he's using you. Sorry.
you need to do the right thing, and you know what that is!!! We do not have to tell you!!! I know it will be hard to do, but you must do it, he is married with a child!! He has not been honest with you, and he is not being honest with his wife, so this in itself tells you something about him!!!
Can you trust him if he kept this secret from you and his family for so long? You know cheating isn't right... and you knew we'd tell you this. You also know that you do have something to lose... self-respect. All you're doing is heading down a path of suffering.





Find another guy... please... I hate to say it but... you're a booty call...





Hopefully our words will give you the strength to do the right thing.
It would be a mistake to continue this. Say goodbye and hold your head up high.
It don't matter if he's gay or not. He's married and off limits. You can't trust him or he'd have told you from the beginning that he was married. His wife doesn't deserve this betrayal and neither does his child.
i know its not your fault but think about the wife and kid.


It would be wrong to continue your relationship.


If he was divorced or separated then that would be different but as he is not- i would end it- before it gets worse.
You already know the right thing to do. End it now before you become more invested in this man. You will only get hurt, there is no good way for this to end. How do you know that you are the only guy he has tried this with? If he LIED to you about having a wife and kids, what else is he hiding?