Getting Married. Need Advice!!!?

Hey Guys and Gals, been a while since i've been on here. Well heres my situation. My Fiance and I are planning on getting married soon. How Soon, August. Here is the dilemma, She is in 2nd Year Pre-med, and I'm working my butt off at a not soo good paying job... We have talked to our parents and relatives about costs and everything, and I have feeling we might be in trouble. We both dont come from that well established families, and I'm wondering if anyone can give any advice as to how I can make this Day EXTRA SPECIAL for her. I want her to have it the way she wants it. We have both struggled throughout our lives together but i know this is the perfect thing to help us come closer together. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.Getting Married. Need Advice!!!?
Sounds like waiting a bit until you're both more steady on your financial feet is a better idea. Forcing this will end in bitter disagreement.Getting Married. Need Advice!!!?
There are tons of money saving things you could do!!!





Use silk flowers instead of real...they are just as beautiful!


Make a wedding CD instead of having a band/DJ at the reception.


Do you have a friend that takes great pictures? Have someone you know do the photography. It doesn't have to be completely professional. She can still get great shots of herself, you two, the party, and the event without spending a fortune on photos that you won't be able to afford the half of them anyway!


If your family is close...have a pot-luck reception. (That's what we're doing) The close members of the families can each bring one or two things...shoot for finger foods and snacks.


Don't over-do it on your cake. It can be pretty and elegant without costing hundreds of dollars!


Anything you can do yourself, do it! Centerpieces on clearance can always be painted to match the wedding colors!





Honestly, there is no reason to spend thousands and thousands of dollars on a wedding. Good Luck!
first of all, you're extra sweet for even thinking of it, let aong asking for help! how nice you are!





this is a little hard to ask bc i don't know where you live and what's available that day.





are you having a reception at all? are there specifics you need help figuring out how to cut costs on?
Do not have the big expensive wedding....you don't need it. The most important thing here is the two of you getting married, not the wedding. You should spend little on the wedding, and concentrate on the two of you and your love. Trust me....I've been married three times...and the last one(current marriage) was the best because it was small, intimate, and at the beach....my first one was the big, church, expensive dress, huge reception, etc., wedding....which I could kick myself for not saving that money and doing a nice honeymoon instead....anyway, you can invite only close family/close friends......have only two-four attendants..buy the dress on line...(eBay is a good one...people on there will make you a gorgeous dress for less than $500!!) not at an expensive bridal shop....have a very small reception and do it all yourself......florists are also a rip off...don't use them...go to a grocery store.....they use the same exact flowers at affordable prices....make the day all about you and her and just spend the money on her stuff and the honeymoon.....
Recruit family and friends to help you make things for the wedding. Making things on your own is almost always cheaper than having someone else do it. Do you have an aunt who could bake you a cake? Do you have friends who could help you make favors and invitations? Could your grandma put together floral bouquets? Would your uncle be willing to do photography? There are lots of ways to have a nice wedding without blowing the budget. If these aren't options for you, then perhaps you might have to pick and choose depending on what's important to you. If you absolutely must have table linens imported from India, but you don't care about what the floral bouquets look like, then spend the money you do have on the linens and go with an inexpensive bouquet of wildflowers. If this is still not going to work for you, then you might want to postpone the wedding so you can have it the way you want it. Just remember, it's the fact that you're getting married that should be important. At the end of the day, the only thing that really matters is that you're married to someone you love. Good luck!
Answerer Groovy has a lot of good ideas.


Hey, Hi, I'm in Saskatoon.


You don't say if you are getting married in Regina, or where - so that could change these options, of course.


One option to look at for catering and the reception location is church/parish halls. Ladies usually make awesome food, and the prices are totally reasonable. For just over 200 guests you should be able to get some decent prices.


You two just need to sit down, make a budget and both get ready to compromise. Involving family members and close friends in preparation and helping out is the BEST thing to do - everyone always wants to help out, and everyone seems to have some talent to contribute. And, honestly, people don't mind helping!


Good luck to you. Post again if you need more help or ideas, but include what city or town this is for - that helps a lot.
Talk to a wedding planner. You will have to come up with a budget and see if you can really afford to have the wedding of your dreams. Why rush the date. Get yourself up and going before worry about it so much. You can still be happy while you wait until you can get the budget to work for you.
there is no time limit before you get married and weddings cost money even little ones , it may be better for you two to get married at city hall / or church with only few people and when you can afford it have a nice wedding my sister did that 5 years later.
First step to get a wedding more affordable and special: Make it a small affair. An intimate wedding with a maneagleable amount of guests is the best you can do, both financially and mentally. You will be able to afford better quality stuff with less people.





A 218 guest list is a lot of people, and unless you have a big budget and a wedding consultant, I wouldn;t advice for you to do that. Small weddings are much better than the big ones in my opinion, and I've been to dozens of them. If she's a student and you do not have a good paying job, I'll advice you to nix the idea of a fat big weddding that is going to make you start yoru married life in debt.





Second step. Plan ahead, save and have budget (and stick to it)





Shop around, be creative and DIY as much as you can.





Third. Have a wedding that you can afford.





Good luck
maybe you should save for the weding first! i got married in june of 2007 after a 2 1/2 year engagement, i spent alot of time planning and budgeting finding things that would work for us and our budget! and my wedding turned out to be GREAT it was just perfect! we did it on a budget but you couldnt tell! try an out door place for the ceremony you wont need flowers, or a coctail and appitizer reception or alope and pay for the reception you want, or wait till you can give her the wedding she wants!! either way its only 1 day its your life and promise to eachother that you will have forever!!! good luck!!
there needs to be a compromise...


she gets the 'perfect' day, exactly as she wants, with all her guests etc....OR she gets married in August '08.


why the deadline?


if you dont have a lot of money..then dont have a huge wedding.


i will try to be a little helpful though: maybe a destination wedding? you just pay for your travel, get married on a beach, then have a cocktail hour and be done. anyone that goes pays there own way there. this also doubles as the honeymoon.


other advice: wait till you both are out of college and more settled. timing is everything...
wait until you have enough money saved up if you both really want a big wedding otherwise just do something small mine was small i we just got married with only our parents there but we had a reception afterwards with all our freinds and family
She needs to decide what is more important:


1. Being married to you


or


2. A big wedding with all the trimmings





At the end of the day, no matter HOW it is done...you and she will be married. People who have a simple wedding are just as married as those with a big fancy wedding.
There are some ways to cut back on costs of weddings. You just have to pick the right area and scale down on your guest lists.





Pick a beach setting with chairs or a local forest preserve. The chairs are semi cheap to rent out and its a lot less than going to a hall to get married. Also check out if you have any local America Legion halls around sometimes they are cheaper. Scale back on your food by having a buffett, or even a fun BBQ. You can do it anyway just be creative.





Have fun with it and congrats!
There are so many ways to cut out costs. Use web sites like www.orientaltrading.com or www.dollartree.com. Another pretty idea is if you go out in the country a lot of places have small wild trees growing. Talk to the property owner, cut them, put them n a basket and wrap white christmas lights around them. Hard to picture, but lots of wedding planners do this. If you go to second hand stores you can pick up nice service bowls and platters. Also there are lots of sites where you can get cheap dresses that are nice. Also Davids bridal is always running $99.00 wedding dress specials and they are really nice dresses! Congrats and good luck!