Need advice from married/Divorced People?

We are going to separate and divorce after an year, I feel so lost,sad and scared?


What do I do?


He is so okay with everything and acts so cool.


Am going to uni next month, am 26, Will everything be fine?


I havent told my parents or anyone. He says its wise to say after we get divorced.any advice for me?


Need advice from married/Divorced People?
Honey, let your family in on what's going on in your life. They're a great source of comfort and advice and can be your backbone through this whole thing. You need to have someone in whom you can confide, and family will always be there to fill those shoes. You're divorcing him, so it doesn't matter how 'wise' he thinks it is for you to keep your mouth shut. Sounds like to me, he's afraid of what may happen when they find out.





Yes, Darlin', everything is going to be fine. Your heart will feel like it's broken for a while, but, as in every valley we go through, this too shall pass. (Biblical scripture) Hold your head up, seek support in whomever you feel most comfortable, give your heart time to heal, and then get on with your life. You were ok before he came into your life, and you'll be ok long after he's walked out of it. God will send someone into your life that will knock you off your feet and make you completely forget what's - his - name.





Family sticks together, Hon...go to them and use their shoulders as a soft-spot to land!





God's blessings on you and yours...Always!Need advice from married/Divorced People?
After an indeterminate period of time, when you've had a chance to adjust to not being with him and being single again and perhaps go on a few dates, everything will be fine.


It seems like he's either trying to hide his stress about it, or he might have already emotionally moved past it and not have much stress at all.





Either way, it will make it easier on you to be able to confide in your family before, during, and after the divorce. Going at it alone will only make it harder for you. I've never been through a divorce but my best friend did. She understood that she wanted to leave the guy and didn't really love him as much as knew she should to keep fighting for the marriage but it was still so hard. She cried, he cried, I cried... Even when it makes sense it's still a separation from someone you cared about for a long time.
First off, tell your parents now. It is no longer a good idea to be listening to him and what he thinks you should or shouldn't do. I understand how your feeling as my wife and I recently separated. The key is to take it one day at a time for awhile. You've got uni coming up next month so focus on that and preparing for it. That will help keep you mind off of the current situation. It takes awhile to grieve for the loss of a relationship and then gradually everything will work its self out and start getting better.
don't listen to this jerk. take your life into your own hands and deal with this straight on. come clean with everyone about all this and begin putting your life back together. focus on your mental/emotional health, your career, your family and friends and make your life everything you want it to be without a man in it. don't ever count on a man fulfilling your life. it's up to you to do that. so get busy, move on and begin your new, great life.
I have been where you are now and understand some of your feelings. It is a traumatic event to say the least. i found comfort within a book that was given to me by a friend . to hell with hell, which doesn't sound like a book that deals with your situation or feelings, but it really does. she bought hers on b and n dot com or maybe amazon dot com. I'm sure you can order it from a major book store like Books A Million, Barnes and Noble, Borders and others. I hope you read it because I know it will help you tremendously get through this without as much pain and sorrow as you may expect not having read it. good luck.
It is perfectly normal to feel lost and scared right now. This is a huge step in your life. You will need the support of your family and friends, my suggestion is to talk to them right away. They need to be made aware of what is going on so they can be there to help you, because you will need that support. Good luck and this is a tough thing to have to go through.
You deserve better.Dont live with a man who dont need you.


Get divorced and be free.Doesn't matter you let your folks know it now or later.This is your life.Grow up ! mature..


Be happy that you are out of it..You are lucky this happened now before you started a family and kids and all....


Eveything will be fine...give some time for yourself...


Look for someone who loves you..Trust me you deserve far better ......



Listen friend, u gotta ask urself r u prepared to live ur life with someone u don't love. u r far too young, if ur not happy trust me move on. it seems like a long way but once ur on it u will turn back and see that u made the right decsion. I think it is important for u to inform parents as they will always back u up. take care and god bless
I say talk to someone. It will help maybe not your parents if you feel they will judge. and YES everything will be fine. A divorce is the death of your relationship you need time to go through the 7 steps of grief.





Good luck. Big HUG.
I think you should make up your own mind whether or not you wish to tell your parents. Will they be supportive? If so, you have every right to their support. You certainly need to talk to someone or you may not be in a state to go to university.
No absolutely not, go to your family and friends with this NOW! You need support, and wisdom from someone else. He's trying to force you into a situation where you feel alone, if you have family reach out to them!
Tell people. You need support. People will help you.



This is your first step to true happiness. Good luck
i would tell them now. may be someone can help keep you together, if that is what you both want.