I'm getting married tomorrow, any advice?

Give me the good, the bad, the funny, or sad....anything at all....Share your avant-garde views, and some old family traditions, what about the night before, tell me your in-Laws positions....anything at all....Can the flowers be roses, or maybe carnation, is silk better yet, and do two Souls form a nation....anything at all....it's possible now!I'm getting married tomorrow, any advice?
Congrats! I just want to say..Please DO NOT LET THE ROMANCE DIE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP! Life gets tough and when that part of the marriage gets pushed aside, it is all down hill from there. Believe me when I say this. Keep the random kisses, hugs, pinches, passion and pats going! If you two continue to show each other how much you care and desire each other, you can hurdle any obstacle you might face together.


Oh yeah, much tolorance of another's shortcomings helps tooo!..lol


Good luck and I wish you both MANY years of happiness together! :)I'm getting married tomorrow, any advice?
congratulations, dram-- hope this is one of the happiest days of your life!

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You picked the BEST answer - that's always a great start. Happy Trails too you and your (by now) wife.

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Well if you are the groom it is a nice gesture to buy your soon to be wife a nice gift and have someone give it to her right before the ceremony, it always helps. Also if you have ever had anything sweet and loving you wanted to tell her today would be the day.
THE WEDDING IS JUST THE CEREMONY. THE MARRIAGE IS WERE YOU MUST STAY COMMITTED, IN EVERY ASPECT, SUCH AS, TEMPTATION, DISAGREEMENTS, ETC. ONE MORNING YOU WILL WAKE UP AND THINK ';HOW DID I GET HERE';, ';WHY';..ETC. YOU MUST REMEMBER, EVERYONE GOES THROUGH THAT AT SOME POINT IN THEIR LIFE, MARRIED OR NOT. YOUR SAFETY NET IS HAVING TO KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND TO BE STRONG IN YOUR CONVICTIONS. IF YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS TODAY...RIGHT NOW....ABOUT YOURSELF, YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE, AND/OR MARRIAGE ITSELF, PLEASE DO NOT GET MARRIED. AS NO ONE CAN PREDICT THE FUTURE, AND IF YOU FEEL STRONG AND CONFIDENT, ENJOY LIFE TOGETHER (EVEN THE HARDSHIPS), AS IT GOES BY SO FAST. I WISH YOU HEALTH AND HAPPINESS ALWAYS!
1- Listen to what ';no cutesy name :)'; had to tell you - that really is it.





2- Listen to what ';no cutesy name :)'; had to tell you - that really is it. [ It doesn't hurt to repeat a good thing once in a while] :-)





and





3- Get off this darn venue (i.e. Y!A) and don't come back anytime soon either - go have fun with your wife, instead.








Congrats and Good Luck!
Congratulations!!!





Take ONE DAY AT A TIME .....





Both of you have a ';LIFE TIME';.





DON'T WASTE IT !!!!!





ENJOY LIFE, LOVE AND THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS.





OLD DAWG











SAID SO !!!!!
Smile %26amp; be happy! Good luck. Don't forget the ring!
RUN!! NOW!!
Always remember to stick to your marriage vows and take the good with the bad. Also you have to commicate with one another! You are in for life, so keep that in mind. You leave your parents and cleave to your wife!
Congratulations!!!! :)





Much love to you two, and my best wishes for a very happy life together!! :)
On the actual wedding day, take the time to stop and REALLY BE IN THE MOMENT! It's easy to get swept away in all the planning and details, but you want to remember this event so try to truly be in the moment!





In the future make it a point to keep communication between the two of you open and honest. Take time for romance. Don't forget date night just because you're married!





Good luck and best wishes!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!





I am very happy for you!! My only advice is to marry this person ONLY if they are all you want in your life.








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say yes
I'm sorry you must lying.





My best friend is getting married tomorrow too. And he is so stressed that he has me stressed. There is NOTHING that can be picked on the day before or the day of when it comes to weddings unless you do one of those Vegas Weddings.





My buddy is having a small wedding, and that is costing 40K and they have been planning since at least February.
unless you have a great relationship with your inlaws, keep those suckers at bay, they can cause a lot o' trouble. After 8 years the mother in law meddles like never before from ';dump him, and abort the baby'; (our first born daughter who they dote over), to actually driving us from the same town (we lived across the street from them, it was so bad her being a continuous idiot, we both quit our jobs and moved to a new town with nowhere to live and no job -totally worked out though). She accused us of child abuse because we sent our daughter to her room. We've had to kick her out of our house at times. She's a moron so she doesn't get it. So my advice (2 cents worth) is crack down on in laws they can cause a lot of trouble if their not put in their place immediately and you should have a very happy fruitful marriage and fight over money like everybody else. have kids and lots of em..good luck
chill... take it easy and truly enjoy every single minute!
Congrats, are you nervous? Well drink plenty of water tonight and do not take anything to make you pass out. It will cause bags under your eyes tomorrow. You want to look your best on your big day.


The night before my big day, I had a few shots with my sister. It helped take the edge off. But so much that I was wasted. I wanted to look good for my wedding. My inlaws love me, so they were VERY happy their son and I were getting married. It can be a little stressful knowing that tomorrow is the big day, when it was not that long ago you were starting to make arrangements. Just if anything, make sure you have a good time tomorrow. And again, congrats!
if you are getting married tomorrow, then you shouldn't be worrying about flowers anymore.
GOOD LUCK!! CONGRATS!!!





my boyfriend's brother is getting married tomorrow too!!!
Before I give my advice, I have to ask: why are you worried about flowers the day before the wedding? That should've been taken care of a while back!





Now, for my advice: since the wedding is tomorrow and there's really no room for asking if you have ';this and that'; done, I'll give the best three pointers for the ceremony:


1.) Don't fidget when you're standing up at the front of the room waiting on your bride. It makes you look that much more nervous and takes away from the magic of the moment.


2.) Whatever you do, DON'T LOCK YOUR KNEES! You're already nervous which has blood pumping through you fast enough to make you pass out already. Locking your knees will raise that probability! I'm not too sure why locking your knees makes you pass out, but it will so don't do it!


3.) The kiss. Make it long enough to be romantic and memorable, but short enough to keeps the ';oohs and ahhs'; at bay. You don't want to shove your tongue down her throat while Grandma is in the front row!





Well, that's about all I can think of for now! Have a great day tomorrow! Best wishes and good luck!
Ok, I'm not sure why you'd be asking about flowers if you're getting married tomorrow but here's my advice: Enjoy every moment. Don't let it pass by in a blur. Take a moment to pause, look around, look at your bride, and just memorize that moment. Look her deeply in the eyes when you're saying your vows. Try to make her laugh during a point and you'll never forget it. When you see her walking down the aisle, smile really big....she's been dreaming of that moment since the day you proposed so don't let her down. Don't see each other the day of the wedding. It makes the anticipation and seeing her as she walks down the aisle that much sweeter. Congratulations!
Get your hair cut.
Here麓s what our minister emphasized during our ceremony, and has really helped up A LOT. After you get in an argument, forget all about it. Don麓t bring it up, don麓t rehash the past. Put these things aside, and never discuss them again-WOW!!! This was powerful. Richard and I used to always relive our disagreements, and we don麓t anymore, and when one of starts to, the other reminds to not do it.





Best wishes to you-if you two are anything like us, we agree marriage is the GREATEST!!!
don't forget to EAT! also, don't forget the marriage license and the rings!





O, and remember to RELAX!
Take Jerry Hall's good marriage advice ';My mother said it was simple to keep a man; you must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom';





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and ... dont forget to pray , ask forgiveness to the Lord , ask forgiveness what u have done wrong and dont forget to thank the Lord for he give you this moment and for the coming days , thank you lord for everything , and pray for your wedding and all the days that you have with your wife ,ask also his guideness throughout the years
Congratulations! :)

I'm getting married need some advice please i dint know what to do anymore i almost want to cancel da wedding

i bought a dress at david's bridal and it is ivory with champaine (*sp) color trim should the bridesmaids and matron of honor wear pink or marron (*sp) and what should the flower girl wear??? i am stressed dont know what to pick or what looks nice it is for december the first an outside wedding in tampa, fl can u give me some suggestions please or web sites i can look at ........I'm getting married need some advice please i dint know what to do anymore i almost want to cancel da wedding
As a wedding consultant, the only recommendation I give to my brides when selecting colors is...pick the colors YOU look best in. Forget about what your friends like or look good in. When you look at your wedding pictures after the wedding the ONLY persons who should stand out are YOU and your GROOM. Therefore, you need to ';frame'; the picture with colors that look good on both of you. If you look fabulous in pink vs maroon, then choose pink...or vice versa. Heck, for that matter you might decide that your best color is something completely different. Don't mistake that for your favorite color...you need to find the color that really makes you look your best. When you surround yourself with that color, you will look radiant in your wedding pictures. As for the flower girl, tradition states she should match the bride. Modern styles allow for her to match the bridesmaids or maid/matron of honor. So once you decide your color, then decide if you want the flower girl in that same color or if you want her to match you. Good luck and don't stress. Always keep in mind that this is just the beginning, so keep it light and fun.I'm getting married need some advice please i dint know what to do anymore i almost want to cancel da wedding
Burgundy dresses with pink flowers.
A deep pink or maroon (burgundy).........would be appropriate for Dec. wedding.You could have their flowers in the opposite colour e.g. pink dress/maroon flowers or visa versa.


I like the flower girl in the same color as the bride which could be trimmed with the pink or maroon even if you had to have it made or trimmed for her.


Don't stress so much sweetie as it reall will all work out for you.


Take a deep breath and relax and enjoy.


Good luck with your wedding and it will be beautiful.
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this is the MOST popular flower girl dress around. I'm even having my flower girls wear it. my brides maids are wearing dark pink and light pink, and i'm having the store put dark pink and light pink petals in the flower girl dress.





hope this helps!
Sweetie, Relax!





Weddings aren't about what color the bridesmaids wear, or if the flowergirls clash with the ring bearer.





Just pick whatever color you think looks beautiful. Do you or your fiance have a favorite color? How about colors that have special significance? (school colors, colors of your parents wedding, birthstone colors?) Or you may just find a dress that you fall in love with that looks best in one certain color.





First, try to pick what colors you don't like, that your bridal attendents don't like or what they won't look good in (hint, no pink for redheads!)





Don't tie yourself down to colors until you have picked the style of dresses you want, or else you may get boxed into not having the bridesmaid dress of choice because it comes in the wrong colors.





Please, don't let such silly decisions ruin you wedding. This is a celebration of your love, the start of your life together. Down the road, you may not even remember what colors anyone wore (he definitely won't)! Just enjoy the moment.





Besides, you can always make your mother pick the colors and just smile and go with it!
Even for a Tampa wedding, a wine color might be more suitable for a December wedding. Pink is usually reserved for Spring or Summer weddings. I'd choose a simple ivory dress for the little flower girl and add a wine ribbon bow. You could use ivory flowers in the bridesmaids' bouquets, add burgundy/wine ribbon and greenery..ivy and other sprigs of fresh herbs, for instance. Ultimately, choose whatever you really like. It's your wedding, and I hate to hear that you are so stressed over something as relatively simple as a color scheme. Take a breath; weddings are wonderful occasions, but you have to pace yourself. There's more stress to come. It all pays off in the end, but it's a part of the process for most brides to be.
Im legally married, and if it were me, i say RUN ***** RUN!! I am separated, partially my fault, I'm kinda difficult to live with. And man ill never get remarried. How long have u been together with him.
I got married in October and my dress was ivory. I had my bridesmaids in maroon dresses with accents of ivory. You can see some of our pictures here http://classicdigitalphotography.com/por鈥?/a>


The flower girl wore an ivory dress with a satin sash around the waist that matched the color of the bridesmaid dresses.


I had the flowers for my bridesmaids be lighter in color so they would stand out against their dress and then my flowers were darker maroons and rich pinks. I like the way it all turned out :-)


Good luck. The planning can be stressful but it's totally worth it to finally be married!
First things first please go to get tour nails done and relax!! This is supposed to be a very happy time in your life. Also I would definitely suggest you go back to davids bridal with your dress and ask a sales associate to help since that is their job they will be more than willing. Also ask your mom or bridesmaid to help with these decisions.


Then i think the bridesmaids and matron should wear apple


and the flower girl should wear champagne with apple accents. apple is the closest maronish color i could find from davids bridal


http://www.davidsbridal.com/flowergirl_d鈥?/a> flower girl dress with apple sash





http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_鈥?/a> ..... the bridesmaid could just pick the dress that looks best on their body in this color
darker color for the dresses





maroon burgundy %26amp; wine are very similar in color





pink flowers would be a pretty accent





calm down sweety remember the wedding is just 1 day- you have the rest of your lives together
First let me express my congratulation on your forthcoming nuptials. Second let me say; I don't know crap about wedding preparations and like all men I let my wife handle all the details, my big responsibility was to play golf with my future in-laws the morning of the wedding. Now let me just add, relax and try to take it all in stride. All the things that seam insurmountable now will be a source of humor in the future. Try going to a day spa for a message and pedicure, that always seams to help my wife and daughter(she's now 21). Also, try yoga and deep breathing. I guess the point him trying to make is that as important as your wedding day is it is only one day in your life. Before deciding any issues have a nice glass of wine or a beer, whichever is your choice. I hope you have a great wedding, a long and happy marriage, beautiful healthy children and that you have a long life so that you may enjoy your grand and great-grandchildren.





ps


don't pay attention to grumpy. As she admitted she is difficult to live with.
okay, first off..breathe!





then go tot David's bridal's website to the dres your wedding link. youcan see what the entire wedding party would look liek in whatever dress you want. it helped me SOOOO much when i was planning my wedding less then a year ago


and remember.. relax.. it's a few hours and then it's done oaky!
I have shopped at davids bridal and they are great.....they have a dress to match everything...go back there..tell them which dress you bought and ask them what line of dresses they have that match this dress...that is there job to help you coridinate your wedding...trust me let them help!
I like pink for your bridesmaids and ivory to match you for the flower girl...look at david's bridal website...
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Getting married in Italy, any advice/ experience?

Hi, we have decided on having the wedding in Italy as we loved it there on holiday and it is easy for guests to travel to and find accommodation..





has anyone done this before, we are looking at slow-dreams.co.uk for the wedding organisers, has anyone used these people before? if so what are they ike,





We are on a pretty tight budget so if you know of any other wedding organisers you would reccommend please let me know :o)





many thanks in advanceGetting married in Italy, any advice/ experience?
I was married in Italy (and live here) have also helped many other couples get married in Italy, as well as planned honeymoons.





The easiest way to get married in Italy is in a civil ceremony. The most important thing you are going to need is an interpreter -- if you and your fiance don't speak Italian you must have someone who can translate present for you at the wedding office and at the ceremony itself.





Here is a brief description of the documents you will need in order to marry in Italy -- if you need more detailed information and a translator and witnesses, please contact me. (It is possible to do this MOSTLY on your own without the help on an expensive wedding company -- however, if you don't have the money and time to fly to Italy pre-wedding to arrange everything and you don't speak Italian you are going to need a minimum of help.)





--Atto notorio: done at an Italian consulate in U.S. prior to your departure (with two witnesses) or at a courthouse in Italy


--Nulla aosta: done at U.S. consulate in district where you are marrying, this document needs to get a apostille attached at an Italian lower court


--You will need your birth certificates, passports and divorce decrees (if applicable) for an appointment at the wedding office in the city where you will married.


--After the wedding, you'll need an apostille attached to the marriage certificate and have it translated in order to register your marriage in the U.S. when you return.








****ADDED INFO: I just reread your question and realize that you must be a British citizen or potentially not American as you referenced a UK website. In that case, your rules for marriage are a little different.





Essentially it is the same as for U.S. citizens but you don't need an atto notorio. Here is a link to the info on the British Embassy website: http://www.britishembassy.gov.uk/servlet鈥?/a>





I live in Florence and offer translation services for weddings here. I know that planners can get quite expensive. If you are interested in using my translation services (which would included making all the necessary appointments) let me know. I can give you a rough idea that to be married in Florence for example, it will cost you about 900 euro (and about 650 euro of that is in fees to the city).





Because I have a background in tourism, I am also able to set you up with great hotels and meals and because I got married here myself I know great photographers, caterers, florists, etc.





I'd be happy to help if you want to get in touch with me.Getting married in Italy, any advice/ experience?
Lol , I ditto the answer man. Not much help to you though, you seem hell bent on this downward spiral. I'm not cynical, am I?


Lol, good luck on your nupitals and long life to you both!
my advice, don't get married. There is a 51% chance you will get divorced.
I strongly suggest that you get married ';quietly and discreetly'; in your own country first (a few days or a few weeks) before traveling to Italy.





Why? (1) To protect yourself legally in your home country. (2) Because you are already ';legally'; married Italian residency requirements will be eliminated and there will be no paperwork involved. And Italy is famous for its ';red tape,'; it is there way of discouraging ';foreigners'; from getting married there.








And yes, you will definitely need some professional wedding organizing and planning help if you are getting married in Italy.





Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

Need advice from married men?

When my girlfriend and I lie down on the same bed she presses *her parts* against me and I HATE IT.. it makes me feel like a dog is humping me. Is that normal? I'm 19 and she is 18.





*This isn't while we're having sex it's just if we're ever randomly lying down together.





I don't know I just find it very animalistic.Need advice from married men?
My wife does it sometimes and I love it. What's the problem? It means she digs you. Deal with it.Need advice from married men?
Its common for females and males to do that. It means she loves you. She wants to be with you. You know cuddling. As every one else said if you really don't like it. You are gay. Maybe you should find a man or a tranny. Which ever. You should tell her to find someone better. Someone who will love being loved by a women.
Its called...';Physical attraction';! Maybe you should ask yourself if you would prefer having a man press ';his parts'; against you. If you aren't attracted to her...let her go so she can find someone who LIKES this attraction.
Yeah. You are gay.


I can't imagine any 19 year old boy that wouldn't want ';her parts'; on them.
haha its nothing out of the ordinary.
What's wrong with you. Enjoy it while you can.
Wtf?!?!?! Are you gay hun? Cause I don't do that, but damn my husband wishes that I would!!!!
Ha





They only do that when they are not married!
you have a ';REAL'; woman in you hand. that's too bad you're too feminine to deserve that.
';I HATE IT'; WOOOOW


Does she happen to have a dik??


I bet if she had one you wouldn'y ';HATE IT';.


Dud I love when my wify does that.





How does she make you feel when she does that?


gggoooodddd
You're weird
FAG
yah, i would hate it too. :)
just be cool
clearly, you are gay
wake up and smell the coffee beans my son

I'm getting married soon! Any advice on how to keep the ';spark'; alive for years to come?

Laugh with each other and listen to each other. Get interested in the things that your spouse is interested in. My husband is very into his hobby, which I really would not be into if I was not married to him. He is so excited to talk about it and take part in it with me that it really blesses our marriage. Now, I am starting to get into it, as well, because its so important to him. That really keeps the sparks alive for us b/c he knows that I am sacrificing doing something that I enjoy for him.I'm getting married soon! Any advice on how to keep the ';spark'; alive for years to come?
I've only been married for 5 years, but we have both been completely commited to our spiritual lives, each other and our kids. Absolutely nothing comes before that. Almost every problem we have had boils down to jealousy.I'm getting married soon! Any advice on how to keep the ';spark'; alive for years to come?
DON'T GET MARRIED AND THE SPARK WILL NEVER FADE!!!
Keep trying new things and never be afraid to explore!
Keep the spark alive, don't stop doing the things you enjoyed doing from the start. Most of the time when the thrill is gone, so is the marriage.
Communicate, communicate, communicate - in a kind and loving manner, every single day of your lives.
have sex daily
The truth? Behavior always follows values. Everything we do, we do in order to achieve something we really want. You're getting married. So is she. OK... the big question is WHY?


If she's getting married because she wants a house and a family and a stable relationship, then that's what she values. That's where she will invest her energy. She'll invest time and energy in achieving her values. Always. If she wants security, she'll get married. If she wants a house, she'll invest time and energy getting it, then keeping it. She'll be a housekeeper. If she wants family, she'll be a mom.


If you are just the means to her end, then she will invest time, energy and affection on you ONLY IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE HER GOALS. Once she has, she will no longer need to invest in you... she'll invest in the things she wanted from the beginning. You were a means to an end, and once there, she'll only invest what is necessary to keep you as a provider for the things she really wants. The spark will die in a few months no matter what you do, because she'll know it isn't necessary for her to achieve her goals.





If she wants a house... because its a place she can be with you; if she wants a family... as a way to share more with you; if she wants to be married... as a way to just be alone with you forever; and if you see all of these things the same way: Behavior follows values. Always. The spark will always be there, because it's why you're getting married in the first place.





Marriage is a means to an end. What ';end'; are you and she looking for?
Well one thing, you may have had sex before, but even if you did, I'd advise you to wait til the wedding night. Even if you start now, it will be better. Also have sex with her a lot and sometimes just hold her and don't expect to screw her every time. Sometimes us women just want to be cuddled and that's all. (I am assuming you are a guy, but if you aren't, I'm very sorry) And keep her happy. :)
Stay open and honest and always talk.
one word, unselfishness
My wife and I always do things for just us. We have two kids, and we love them very much, but we know we still need time for our marriage. Marriage is a lot of work, but when it's with the right person, and you work at it, it's the most wonderful experience. I have a lot of friends that seem to think, once you have kids, the going out on dates and doing fun things together is over. We leave the kids with my parents and go to the Caribbean every year, and it's a great time.





Another thing is to make them your best friend. I know everyone has friends, and I have some really close friends, but my wife is my best friend. She is also my girlfriend, my mistress, my lover, and all of those are important.





Make sure you make time for sex. Once people get married and have kids, most of them only have sex once or twice a month. That won't keep the spark alive, you need to do it a couple times a week, at least. Keep the sex interesting, don't let it become something you do for ten minutes, make it an hour or two, and make it crazy and fun.





Just my 2 cents. Good luck.
the sooner you bury your ego, realize she is always right and learn to agree with everything she says, the sooner you will be on your way to a happy and long marriage...oh, and having a good career that significantly increases your salary annually will be a huge plus...
You will fall in %26amp; out of love throut your marrige...its great...dont be afraid....remember you are two different people from two seperate families....respect each others opinion %26amp; talk to each other as if you were on your first date....try new adventures %26amp; have a weekend when each can choose ';whats on the menu tonight';....if you get my drift....keep happy....Chappie
I'd like to share with you how me and my husband of 2 years keep our spark alive. We love doing new and interesting things together whether it be the 2 of us camping and spending quality time together, or a romantic dinner out with a nice conversation. But the sex part you've gotta keep spiced up also. Keeping the bar high, he buys me sexy lingerie and I buy different toys and lotions that we both use together, and we buy different kama sutra books to learn new things together. Girl, always remember to trust in your new relationship, it is the most important basis of marriage, Good Luck! :-)

Need advice,my fiance is from Mexico and I want to bring her to the U.S. to get married.?

I met this wonderful women online in late August and have been donig the webcam and headphones ever since.I finally went to Mexico in March to meet her in person and everything just fell into place it was great.Now here is my question-she got her vistitor visa last week,now when she comes over here should we marry here?What is the right way to do it,the legal way?Need advice,my fiance is from Mexico and I want to bring her to the U.S. to get married.?
Do NOT get married whle she is in the U.S. on a visitor visa...she will not be able to stay...and if she does and violates her visa...you will likely never get her into the U.S. She needs to return on or before the date on her I-94 form. Then you can apply for a fiance visa for her. See site below. Do this carefully and honestly to prevent additional problems.Need advice,my fiance is from Mexico and I want to bring her to the U.S. to get married.?
Wait until she comes to the US, (Legally) download the package from DHS(Department of Homeland Security) go to immigrations forms and fees.If you want to do it your self(no lawyer) you will need Form G-325, G-325 A,G-325B and G-325C, I-130,I-485,I-765and I-864 add all the fees and add 80.00 dollars for finger prints fee. the I-864 you have to notarize it!!! make copies of everything. GET MARRIED. Fill out the forms add copies of married certificate, Form I-94, her birth certificate with a translation into English Notarize it, you birth certificate or US passport last 3 years of Income tax returns, letter from your employer(make sure it says how much you make per year or hour, how long have you been working there, singed by your employer) passport pictures of both of you(staple them in the forms G-325) Money orders. need more info?? zulmasknight@hotmail.com or zulma_knight@yahoo.com
although i don't know how it may be done now, i had a family member who wanted to marry his girlfriend in the states. so they married right at the border (on the US side) where you cross but before you have to talk to border patrol. the marriage was legal in the US and there was nothing illegal about her going up to that point on the border.
I would ask an Immigration lawyer, you can find affordable ones, if you look around.

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Advice for married men... Do you agree?

I read this somewhere at msn.com today...


';Remember, she's your wife, not one of your buddies. Don't burp during dinner, or squeeze one out during the movie as she's reaching for the popcorn.';





So it is okay to do that with your buddies? Sqeeze one out? What does that mean? I must be dense!Advice for married men... Do you agree?
I believe to ';squeeze one out'; means to masturbate.Advice for married men... Do you agree?
LOL That means farting!!!! What's wrong with burping and farting? I would hope my husband is comfortable enough in my presence to do those, and to appreciate my burps and farts.
I think ';squeeze one out'; is a polite euphemism for farting.
I read someplace once that you shouldn't treat your spouse (regardless of gender) any differently than you would treat your coworker or boss. In other words, you ALWAYS treat the other person with courtesy and respect.





Farting, burping, scratching your crotch/butthole, picking your nose...all out.





It could easily be argued that the flip side of this coin however is that when you find someone you're comfortable enough to be around for the REST OF YOUR LIFE, you should be able to let go and relax a bit....
Fart
yep it means those ';SBD's'; (silent but deadly) are a-ok! lol
Don't be a guy in front of your girl....


Lord knows you men can be a bit rude at times.... But I found that I can join just as well - except for the ';squeezing'; thing....


Be a gentleman is what it is saying - how sad that we need a ';Being a Gentlemen for Dummies'; book now....
Are you kidding? You live with a person and you are not allowed to fart or burp in the comfort of your own home? Although I do get the not farting during dinner, but burping is fine.......as long as it is followed with ';excuse me';.





But I think my SO would literally blow up if he couldn't do that in front of me.....but maybe we are the exception. I even give him a score them from 1-10. Last night it provided about a good half hour of laughter between us and even though I don't know if i will ever be able to smell normally again, i wouldn't trade that moment for the world. We were like little kids and having a lot of fun. Me pretending that the farts were WAAAAY worse than what they were....(dont tell him that) and him laughing and trying to cover my head with the covers so I get ';surrounded by his ambiance';....me scrambling away and him grabbing me and pulling me back close to him. If him farting means I get to have fun and laugh with him, then I am happy to let him fart away.
Fart.


I totally wouldn't do this with anyone BUT my husband, but we think that stuff is really funny and we only do it at appropriate times (i.e. not while we're being intimate.)
Fart dude! Where you been?
When you're in the theater and squeeze a Baby Ruth bar bar, it pops out of the wrapper, thus ';squeeze one out';. Clear enough?
I'm guessing squeeze one out is probably referring to farting. As for the advice...girls typically find that stuff gross and kind of a turn off, so yes you should try to avoid doing it in front of your wife. However, I doubt your wife will divorce you for it. On the other hand, doing it on a date could mean no future date.
i give my girlfriend dutch ovens all the time, she loves it
fart.


well my husband AND my 8 year fart all the time and laugh their asses off. I must admit, they make me laugh too. They call it '; The Fart Game';





Although I do tell my son, it's not polite, and you better not do it anywhere but home.
Squeeze one out meaning... Don't pass gas....
Uhh fart? I must be my husbands buddy because he does that all the time!
yes I agree





squeeze one out is farting I assume
Say ';poooof.';
FART!!!
That's my biggest issue. I can't stand it when guys burp and fart like barbarians. Mine does it all the time and drives me insane lol. My best guy friend burps like a madman...was that advice written by a man or a woman i wonder..hmmm

Do you have any advice for a Western exchange student getting married to a Korean girl while in college?

Well, congratulations!





But first of all, have you met her parents? The answer is probably yes (if no, then you will have some pissed off in-laws because marriage is usually okayed by the parents) and second... do you have all Korean traditions down? You should have a traditional Korean marriage to please your fiancee and parents-in-law-to-bes...





Mmm, I'll write more advice down (I'll edit this) when I think of some.





But good luck and I hope you have a wonderful life together!Do you have any advice for a Western exchange student getting married to a Korean girl while in college?
I married a Korean and we are really happy. We live in the states but eventually she wants to move back to Korea. Definitely meet her parents and become close to them Try and speak at least conversational English, they will love that. Other than that, have a great life.Do you have any advice for a Western exchange student getting married to a Korean girl while in college?
First, be carefull that you are not just a quick way for her to get into the US. If that is her idea, or her parents, then you are in for a desolution.
No advice. Wish you a great happy life together..





I wish I could ask that question too. _ _:


you make my day.
if the parents say yes %26amp; u guys l o v e each other.


then i guess there will be no problem.

I really need advice from married people, please???

CityGirl


18 minutes ago





How do you help to motivate your spouse? Read on.....?


My husband and I , along with our 2 year old son, moved to California after hurricane Katrina. ...my husband is so homesick and depressed about missing his friends and family, that he has almost given up on trying to make his family happy!! I understand how he feels, it hurts me too that we are so far from home, but what can I do or say to make him realize that this is our life now!!!! I mean, its not like we are financially able to pack up and move again!! My son and I just adore him, but seeing him so depressed all the time is really a big turn off and its getting old! He mopes around the apartment like Ross Gellar from the show FRIENDS......Please, help me, what can I do to be a supportive wife, and cheer him up some???? I'm doind my best to keep him happy, but I really need some good advice!I really need advice from married people, please???
It's so very sweet of you to try and help him thru this...and good for you in doing so!! Just try to let him know that you really do understand what he's feeling but unfortunately you can't afford to move again. Ask him if he would work towards building up the money to move in the meantime and you would consider it. It may just take a little motivation to get him up %26amp; moving....and once he has the momentum, he may find that he actually likes where you are now and won't want to move again after all. Depression is a very real thing....and he may not be able to just ';snap out of it';. Have him go to the doctor and rule out any medical reasons...I know from experience that an underactive thyroid can give the same symptoms. If he checks out ok medically, your doctor may be able to get him some therapy. Best of luck to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you.I really need advice from married people, please???
This guy is depressed all right, and he needs more help than you can give him. Try some 'tough love' to get him into counselling - there must be a mental health clinic somewhere near you. Say ';I love you dearly, but you're making all of us miserable. Get help.'; And you get some supportive counselling too.
Before following Monty's advice, I would get the family set up for counseling (I'm sure the State of California does have resources to help Katrina victims pay for that), and if after a while, your husband doesn't change, then CONSIDER doing what Monty said, and not before.
I can say one thing about coming to California. This and NY are the two top competitive places to live.





I would recommend getting on the horn to his Dad/Mom and ask them to call him to snap out of it, and be a man, and stand UP.





Besides, I can't think of a better palce in the entire US where there is more opportunity than California...I moved out from OHIO, got my engineering degree here, and NEVER looked back.
you are lame...he is lame...split now and forever hold your peace
This is a tough one. First of all I know what you are going through, my family and I are victims of hurricane Rita and it was so hard at first, it still is. We all get homesick, that's normal. I think your husband maybe needs to get counsoling for this-he shouldn't be depressed that bad still. He needs to be thankful that at least everyone is ok. Have you tried talking to him about this? Let him know that this is really getting to you also. Good luck with your situation.
Ooooh, that's a tough one. I feel kinda hypocritical trying to answer that, since I was miserable the one year of my life that I was away from my home town. Try to replicate as much as you can from where you used to live, your family's old habits, whatever you did for fun before. It might take some being pushy on your part, but look around to find hang-outs for him similar to where he liked to go in your old city, and bring him there. Increase contact with family and friends (more phone calls, emails, visits if possible)....it is still cheaper than moving! Get a webcam, and get your family/friends webcams for Christmas or their birthdays, etc.
Wow, what crude answers you 've had so far.....


That's a tough situation for anyone to be in, but lots of us are unhappy working a job that we don't like, maybe living away from some old friends, but you have to look on the bright side and enjoy the time you have here on Earth - It's not always going to be all peaches and cream - there are tough times. Just let him know that you care and be supportive, but share that you're turned off by the depression, ank ask him to snap out of it and enjoy the life's moments that you have together - NO Matter where you are in the world.....
You married a complete loser. Homesick vs his family - dump his sorry *** and buy him a one-way bus ticket to that dump he calls home.

My ex hubby is getting re married and i need advice?

i have been divorced now for a few years and we have a 7 year old child together. he told me he was getting married and i am happy for him.i have known his girlfriend for awhile and we are friends but not close friends. she wants me to be a brides maid. now i have no feelings for my ex after all i am remarried and i wish them both luck but should i tell her yes that i will be in the wedding. she doesnt have many friends or family coming. i mean what will folks think. what if others think it doesnt look right. my daughter will also be in the wedding as a flower girl any advice will be welcomedMy ex hubby is getting re married and i need advice?
I think that it's wonderful that you and your ex have such a good relationship, especially for your daughter. I say, if you feel comfortable being in the wedding, then it shouldn't matter what any attending guests might think on the matter. Clearly, the bride has no qualms, or she would not have asked you to participate.My ex hubby is getting re married and i need advice?
I think it would be important for you to support your ex husband especially in front of your daughter. You need for her to know that life goes on and that even though there is no paper saying your married to this guy doesn't mean you can't be supportive and well wishing. Try to think of it as being their for your daughter and showing her what type of woman you want her to be than being their for the bride or the groom. You are very very very lucky that you can be in the same room with your ex. Not everyone is as luck and you need to represent that for your daughter. I say do it
if you're comfortable doing it there is no reason not to...however, if it would be uncomfortable for you or your ex then i would say no thanks...
As long as your current husband is OK with it and your ex is OK with it, go for it. I happen to feel it's a nice thing. My ex and I are still close and have helped each other often, if she asked me to be part of her wedding I would gladly do it.


Good luck
If you wish them the best of luck be here brides maid. Who cares what people think, and your married already
why not. you have both moved on %26amp; it was nice to hear now that you %26amp; your daughter were invited to be in the wedding entourage. not too many divorced couples had moved on like yours where no one holds grudges against each other. It will be a welcoming event particulary separated couples for them to witness that another chance of blissful marriage can happen %26amp; possibility of separating peacefully and staying friends are best bet so that when time comes that both had re-marry, your children %26amp; theirs will not feel displaced but rather come to know early in life their loved ones love ones. . .
As long as you %26amp; your husband %26amp; ex husband are all ok with it I don't see why not, unless you would be more comfortable just being a guest. Remember you will be in all the pictures as well. Could be she thinks more of you as a friend than you do of her. As for what others think it doesn't matter as long as all of you know what is right.
Go for it! It is their wedding day and I think it would be really sweet, as well as a good example for your little one, for you to stand up with her as long as you don't have any feelings left (other than sharing a child together) for him and you approve of them getting married. People might think it is a little weird at first, but I think once they see you all getting along good it'll be fine...maybe even a relief to his side of the family. I know my exs' families wouldn't have a problem with it!
I think that it is kind of odd for you to be a brides maid but to each as own. If you are comfortable with it and your daughter is going to be in it anyway so go for it. How does you new husband feel about it? You may want to check on this before saying yes just to be sure that he is comfortable with the situation.
If you aren't comfortable, then don't do it. Sounds to me like that's the case.





You could be honest and simply tell her that you would feel uncomfortable and self concious.





Also, maybe explain that you don't want to do anything that might overshadow her happy day with gossip or rumor, so you'd be more comfortable as a guest.





Side note: I do think that attending and being supportive sets a good example for your daughter, It shows her that even if her dad and you are no longer 'family', that you value your daughter's family.





:)
it is absolutely not appropritate but go ahead if you dont care about the wispers and mean comments
I think it is a great idea. It shows that you are supportive of your ex and his new wife. It shows a united front as parents to your child. Your daughter will know that she won't have to worry about choosing sides because you all get along. Who cares what others think?

What is the youngest age you can get married? please i need some advice?

please tell me, because i love my g/f ashley with all my heart and i proved my love to her in everyway except sex and marrage. I want to ask her to marry me. I am in love with her, we only been with each other for a year but she is the one for me. She is the most beatiful,wonderful,nicest,sexe... girl on the planet. Since i met her, my life changed, the past year has been the greatest year in my entire life. Ashley is my better half and i will never stop loving her. She is crazy about me, she told me if it was up to her, she would never stop holding me. I said i will never stop holding you, i will hold her for all the DAYS OF OUR LIVES. I will never cheat on her, i will not pressure her into having sex, i will wait till she is ready. She doesnt have to go out to have a good time, she rather be home with me and watch a movie on the couch and cuddle up. She is my life and i will never stop being by her side. She is my oxygen,i cant go on without her love. I love her with all my heartWhat is the youngest age you can get married? please i need some advice?
Marriage is a union of two people who love eachother in legal form. That's it. You can pledge your love without marriage and I recommend it. But if you are from a religious background I would get the blessings and support from your families.


You take eachother and their families so you want them behind your choice. It makes it easier in the long run too.





The age to marry differs by state. It depends where you live.What is the youngest age you can get married? please i need some advice?
well legally you can get married at any age if a parent consents but once your 18 your a legal adult and can do whatever you want on your own. .. but a note on the other side.. you might want to wait a while longer.. ive seen feelings like that change multiple times.. just an oppionion but do what you want!
In a lot of states you have to be atleast eighteen to legally get married without the consent of your parents. I would normally say that it is always best to wait until you are capable of supporting her and giving her a home. When you are able to provide for her and any children that you are going to have. When you are mature enough to take on that kind of responsibility. Part of being someones husband is not only loving them, cherishing them, and honoring them, it is also providing for them and taking care of them. Its understanding that in the beginning things aren't going to be easy. That bills are going to get hard to pay at times. BUt if you love eachother enough then you will stick together and get through it. And I can't really put an age limit on that because if you are ready right now for all that, then you are ready to get married now.
You are so sweet! And I know you love her,and she loves you, but can I ask ,why the rush to marry?....If you love her as much as you say you do, then give yourselves time to enjoy one another before having to worry about all the responsabilities that come with life out on your own! I know love will endure all things, but slow down and enjoy what you have in eachother! If you love eachother ,you will still love eachother two years from now, ya know? Lifes responsabilities are so great,and even tho I'm sure you two could handle them, why do that to eachother right now? You should take this time to enjoy your love,and be sweet to eachother, and just be in love without the worries of the world! That will start soon enough! Think about it ok?
18 (any younger, you need per mission by your guardians).
well i think that there is no right age when you fall in love with someone becuz im about ur age and me and myboyfriend talk about getting married as soon as i turn 18
you could marry at 18... but would probably regret it. waaaaay too young. marriage is a lot harder than dating.. and a lot more complicated





plus... since you had to ask, and i thought everyone knew that... i'd wait even longer
That's wonderful, what you are experiencing, but do you really need to prove your love my marrying her?


If you love her, then it's time to think about ways to support that marriage, and not just jump into it.


17 is young to marry, and the love wont stop if you don't.


Finish school and get a good job. After all if you really love this girl, then wouldn't you want to make her happy. Because being home with bills will not be good on your love, it will be disaster.


Talk to your parents, talk to her and then talk to her parents. Don't make a mistake you will probably regret.
Please listen to me before jumping into a marriage at age 17. I know you love her; your love is as real to you as anything else in this world. You can get married if you're a minor as long as your parent signs for you. But please, since you really do love this girl and plan to spend the rest of your life with her, wait. Continue seeing each other, but go to college, and let her go to college, too. Then when you are both settled, pick a time to get married.
18... unless you're legally emancipated from your parents, then you can get married sooner. Just be sure...maybe talk to a marriage counselor first..
gee that's the most cutest thing ever and i envy you guys.I really don't know what age you guys can get married but i think you guys are too young yeha that's what you'll mum and the sate would say why don't you guys just bust the romeo and Juliet jk just go to Las Vegas and do it there it would be romantic and so much fun :)plus if u regret it after like she cheated or whatever youll like say ohh well atleast i didnt do it for reals but that wount happend according to yr nice storie
25 -





I appreciate your honesty and commitment - for now





BUT - the majority of teenage marriages last less than 5 years





wait - wait - wait





I know that's not the four letter word you wanted to hear





but it will $ave you $o much grief
I know you feel this way now but you need to wait until you are of legal age ( I think 18 is the age yall can get married). Trust me, dont rush. If you really love each other yall can wait until then.
You are too young to get married. You need to finish school and either continue your education or get a job (hopefully you'll both go to college). Wait until you've gotten your education and the ability to support yourselves before you run off to ';play house';. If your love is as strong as you say, you can wait a few years before making such an important commitment.

I need Advice! I am gettin married again to the same man for the 2nd time and I am worried about what?

I am worried about what my family will say when they get the invitations. Also, Should I tone it down a bit? some people have told me that it is like renewing your vows. I am just wanting this wedding to be as perfect as it can. We made a huge mistake by getting married when we were really young. Divorced and found love again. He is my everything....I also need some advice on what the invitations should say since we are gettin married for the second time lol...Ahhh so much to think about...But, It will be so worth it, I can't wait to call him my husband again...Thanks so much!I need Advice! I am gettin married again to the same man for the 2nd time and I am worried about what?
For invitations, there is a verse search especially for wedding invitations at http://aphroditescreations.regency.tc/Ve鈥?/a> After reviewing some, I though that this verse was nice:





Some people touch us for a moment,


and some for a season


...and some remain with us for a lifetime


In each other, we have found the one


with whom we will spend the rest of our lives


loving, honoring and cherishing


Please join us in celebrating


as we exchange marriage vows


on DAY


YEAR


at TIME


LOCATION


ADDRESS


CITY, STATE





BRIDE and GROOM








Also, here's a rather appropriate song for your first dance:





';After All'; by Peter Cetera and Cher


Well, here we are again;


I guess it must be fate.


We've tried it on our own,


But deep inside we've known


We'd be back to set things straight.





I still remember when


Your kiss was so brand new.


Every memory repeats,


Every step I take retreats,


Every journey always brings me back to you.





(chorus)


After All the stops and starts,


We keep coming back to these two hearts,


Two angels who've been rescued from the fall.


After All that we've been through,


It all comes down to me and you.


I guess it's meant to be,


Forever you and me, After All.





When love is truly right


(This time it's truly right.)


It lives from year to year.


It changes as it goes,


Oh, and on the way it grows,


But it never disappears,





chorus





Always just beyond my touch,


You know I needed you so much.


After All, what else is livin' for?





chorus-repeat











Good luck!I need Advice! I am gettin married again to the same man for the 2nd time and I am worried about what?
How interesting! I think it should be a simple family wedding. For the wording of the invitation, create something beautiful, but somehow wistful because of the circumstances. Good Luck to you, and I hope the same mistakes the first marriage had are not repeated.
Buy a really nice wedding dress, and then get married in a small private ceremony. The dress is the big deal anyway. You guys should get some serious marriage counseling before you tie the knot. I agree with another person - the problems you had before will probably still be there. Check into John Gottman's research. He can determine whether or not a couple will stay together with 98% accuracy based on how they handle conflict.
small wedding





big cake





some nice live music





big waltz at the end
My now husband was married before and he ended up marrying the same woman twice. His family took it pretty good and was fine with it. As a matter of fact his ex got remarried two more times after they split for good and she married the same guy the last two times. Both times she had a big fancy wedding. As for wording the invations I would look on the web site theknot.com to see wahtthey say also do a search on wedding ettiqute it will give you some answers
Congratulations!





http://www.idotaketwo.com





is a site dedicated to 2nd marriages. You will find alot of good stuff there.


There might be a bit of tongue-wagging but don't let it get you down. Tell the offenders, you'd love to have them at the wedding, but if they continue, you can get married as easily without them.
There is a chapter in Miss Manners about people who marry the same person the second time.





Yes, it should be toned down, it should just be family invited (if anyone), everyone else just receives announcements, which are mailed after the ceremony.





You will be inviting fewer people to this informal wedding, so you can even hand write the invitations on nice stationery:





Dear Aunt Kate and Uncle Max,





John and I will be remarrying on June 8, 2006, at the home of my friend, Jan Kingston, 345 Main Street, Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, at three o'clock in the afternoon.





We would be so happy if you would join us for this ceremony, and for light refreshments afterwards.





Please let me know if you can make it.





Love,


Patricia
You go girl! Do what you want to do - it's your wedding, 1st, 2nd, whatever! Maybe just word the invites as ';John and Mary Smith request the honor of your prescence at their marriage....';
Been there done that. I married my first husband a 2nd time making him my 3rd husband.


Our second wedding was huge. Standing room only for almost 400 people. Everyone was so happy we were puting our family back together.


Have as nice a wedding as you would like and people who don't like it don't have to come. Why is it we let crabby people ruin stuff for us. Don't let them do that to you. Celebrate your love.
To be totally honest with you. You do not need a wedding the second time around. You need to go to the court house and get married very quietly, then go home and start your new life with your husband. Church, flowers, cake, pictures, etc. all these things are unnessary.in my opinion a wedding would be very tacky. I know a couple who did do this the second time around people came to the wedding just to laugh at them. Spare yourself the looks and giggles that you will surely get just simply go and find the JUDGE!!!!
don't worry about what people have to say - this is your life -be happy- invitation should say what all invitations say just because it's your second time -it doesn't change anything a wedding is a wedding





good luck
How about ';The second time is the charm! Please join us on our very special wedding day.'; Best wishes!
If you already had a big wedding,Just keep it simple. Have both of you changed that much? If he didn't make you happy the first time,what makes you think he will....Never mind. I would just invite people to the reception. I would made it NO Gifts too.
I like the ';Second time's a charm'; idea. Its a cute, simple, polite way to let people know. And I wouldn't worry about what everyone else thinks. If they love you they will support you. They don't have to agree with you though so be prepared for the nay sayers. Just listen to what they have to say and go on with your plans. Make your day as special as you want. ITS YOUR WEDDING and the wedding is all about the BRIDE and GROOM and their love and commitment for each other.





Congrats!
Do whatever the f* you want! It's your wedding. Ignore the stupid people and enjoy the love of our life.





OK, seriously, if you two are paying the bill, you get to decide what to do. There is no real etiquette here that's the rule. In fact now, there are no rules about weddings.


Just word the invitations to reflect the occasion you want. If you want a formal white wedding, then have formal invitations.


You should convey that you are getting married, first, second, or third time doesn't matter. Anyone close to you will already know the situation, and most will understand. If you aren't close to some of the others, then just have honest answers ready for their questions.





Congrats, good luck, and have fun!

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Get a job, determine to be a better person?





I don't know what kind of advice you want.

Pls help me out.....i need advice from married women....what should i do now...?

i need some help here.my husband is going out of station for a week officially.his works demands him to.and i jus cant stay even a day without him around me...the very thought of me not seeing him for a week makes me cry.i know this will upset my husband but i jus cant do anything.i think i have some sort of addiction towards him...i love him more than anything in my life and it is the same from him.pls help me...thanksPls help me out.....i need advice from married women....what should i do now...?
Sounds like you're suffering from separation anxiety which is understandable. I know it will be tough on you, but he will return. He is a very lucky man to have such a dedicated wife. Can you stay with a close friend who will distract your thoughts of him? I know it will be hard but tell yourself he will be back. Maybe you can go away somewhere on a little retreat so you don't think of him so much. I'm sorry. That's the only advice I can think of. Good luck and I hope all goes well.Pls help me out.....i need advice from married women....what should i do now...?
Find something to do like a hobby-bowling, reading, knitting, etc. to keep yourself occupied while he is gone. There are so many women in this world that have their husbands gone for a week or more, and do just fine. Just think, a week is nothing compared to having your man go off to war for who knows how long? Take care.
Turn that energy into something positive. Paint some rooms in your home, or something. You might put a lot of stress on your husband for being away, and its work that he is doing this. Your neediness could jeopardize his job, which in turn could jeopardize your relationship. Relax. Its a week. You need some time for yourself, because you apparently have become to dependent on him. That's a scary thing to have to rely on someone that much. I understand missing him, but you are sounding like your not going to function at all. Thats a lot of pressure for your husband. If you love him the way you say you do, you need to understand that loving someone is more healthy when you first love yourself. Love isn't what a person provides for you. Its what you share that enhances a person. Your love sounds like he is a nurse. He needs a person to share life with. Not a person to take care of. Relax, he's not going to take this time to get away from you. Unless your neediness has pushed him over the edge. It can be destructive to a relationship when a person is extremely needy, but disquises it as ';i just love them so much';
You are stronger than you think. Just think, you will have so much to look forward to when he gets back. Time will fly, you'll see.
Spend your time planning for the reunion after the week is up.
That you love him more than anything in your life and will miss him is sweet and normal- the fact you say you have some sort of addiction is not. See a marriage counselor or talk to someone so this doesn't become an unhealthy obsession. Time apart should just make his return even better- just focus on that in the meantime. :)
Get a grip woman.....For you to survive any marriage you need to be stronger than that.
grow up girl, you stayed with your mother for nine months and now you arewith with this man.who knows who you will be with tomorrow?


by the way how long have been married?
Seems to me you are insecure.


What are you afraid of?
Yes. Well you are going to need someone else to keep you company. Sitting there all that week will make it much worse. Do you have any relatives or friends who could be with you? That is your answer, fill in the gap with other people or stay as busy as you can!! Good Luck Honey. I am the very same way!! I usually stay on the phone!!
Please snap out of it and grow up...
I think you loving him is wonderful, but being so dependent on him is pretty unhealthy. What did you do before you two got married? You must have had a life pre marriage. You would have had friends, you would have had interests. There will be times in both your lives where you will have to be away from each other, so I suggest before this dependency get too strong and out of control where it becomes an obsession, you learn to find some interests other than your husband. Why stress both of you out needlessly. He loves you, you love him, and he is coming back. Maybe he might like your dependency now, but in years to come he may feel suffocated by you and will be looking for reasons to go away from you so he can have some breathing space. A week is not a lifetime and may be a good time for you to look up friends you havent spoken to for a while...maybe time to go see a good movie. You need to keep yourself busy so you dont get depressed about him not being there. Plan your itinerary now....work out what you are going to do each day. If you keep yourself occupied working out your itinerary, you wont have too much time to dwell on the fact he needs to go away for a week. He has to go, so you getting upset about it is just going to make you sick, and stress your husband out. Be sensible about this, you are an adult.......decide what you are going to do for the week...keep yourself busy and you will find the time will fly by. Sit at home pining for him and the week will drag. You are not this poor little weak woman who hasnt got a personality. Your personality is not defined by your husband. You have a personality of your own....find it again, be a little bit more independent....its not healthy you are putting your eggs all in one basket....you have to learn to rely on yourself. If you dont recognise you are too dependent on your husband now, your dependency will turn into suffocation....deal with it now.
babes you need to do something constructive in your life too...


dont be the roadblock in each others progress....be each others support.....


let him be yuor love..not your need ...


let him go....happily...


he'll appreciate your maturity..and love you more for it

What advice would you give to someone who is about to get married?

DON'T! Ok, seriously...





1 - Make sure that this person is a match with you mentally. Looks go, but if you share the same likes, dislikes, interests, etc. that will never change.





2 - Discuss all the big things before you get married - where will you live, will you have kids, will you have pets, how much money should you save every month, etc.?





3 - No matter how in love you are, get a good, binding pre-nup! If your partner whines about it, run away. It means that if you ever decide that this isn't right for you, they want to make you pay financially for breaking their heart. Don't let this problem hang over your head.What advice would you give to someone who is about to get married?
if you need advice then he/she is deffinetly not the one.What advice would you give to someone who is about to get married?
its all about giving and taking.theres gonna be good days and there will be bad days,but, you are both setting the groundwork for your future and you need to always remember that. keep an open mind and always communicate with each other. learn to make comprimises and learn when to hold your ground. its a new time in your life and its still a growing time. no matter how old we get, theres always something new to learn,so, remember that when the two of you start to come into your own,so, to speak.honesty, thats a big major ibn all relationships. respect is another. dont ever start with the name calling when mad, because words do hurt and they dont go away.good luck on your new adventur into another part of life. and god bless. if you ever get to old to learn something new, well, you are just too old.goodluck to the both of you.
Don't
none. unless you have never lived together or shared finances, nothing changes! If you haven't done either of those yet, then go to pre-marital counseling. I have heard that really can help in the long run!
I hope you discussed what you both want in the future. You need a common direction to stay together. (in my opinion)
be sure you're not getting an annulment after realizing you're not compatible.
I've been married a little over a year and the best advice I was given (and thankfully took) was to get premarital counseling. It seriously saved our marriage before it began. I would ask around to see if anyone you know has had counseling and get recommendations for a counselor.
Show your love 24/7 not just using words, use actions. Treat your spouse like an equal in all situations, always treat them with respect, love, desire and faithfulness. Everyday find something new to compliment them on. NEVER goto bed mad at eachother and NEVER EVER say in a fight or any situation that you want a divorce cuz that will hurt forever and it will always be in the back of that person's mind that you felt that way at one time. ALWAYS love your spouse atleast 50%more than they love you.
DON'T!!!
Don't. But if you must... don't change, or try to change the other person. STAY AWAY FROM INLAWS!!!!
Nothing! I wouldn't risk being held liable for whatever happens afterwards.
Depends on if the advice is for a man or a woman, if for a man it would be keep your dick in your pants. if for a woman tell her to be sure to get half of everything in the divorce!
Communication is your greatest asset....always talk openly and honestly......and you will be able to avoid most arguments.
that's a hard answer these days. search your heart is the only answer if have.





check the doubts, is there any thing you can't give up if you were asked.





statistics are not in favor of the married people any more





remember it is a lifetime decision
as long as you and the person you are about to marry are happy go for it. Congrats
Always remember your marriage vows and take the good with the bad, If you want to grow old together!
wait
it is not too late to save yourself from this life sentence and if you must trade away your autonomy and happiness for a financial and emotional life sentence of compromise and a family member with your inlaws, then dont ruin it by having kids everyone is happily married until that time then it is all downhill from there and sign a prenup making her promise not too gain 50 pounds now that you are married cause it seems to have become the standard now get married gain ten to fifteen pounds a year then hate him and become jealous and insecure cause the jerk wont touch you and if he loved you he would not care about your weight, right! this happens al too often and weight is an issue
Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!


YOur life is OVER


J/K congraualations! and you will be fine HAPPY with your LOVE
Be sure that you really love them and are ready to give your all. Otherwise it will not work. Marriage isn't all peaches and cream. It is work to build something nice.





Marriage is what you put into it. The minute you just let it go, it will be like your deck...needing work and starting to break down.





And one other thing....you aren't the only one in it. Meaning....your partner needs to be just as committed. There are lots of people who think that if they love the other person enough, it will work. Not true. It is a two way street.





If you are ready, and the other person is too...then good luck. Too many get married for the wrong reasons. Name your reasons, have her name hers. If the desire to create a great relationship isn't in the top three, then you may want to wait a while.





Good luck
Communication is everything. Learn to communicate things to each other even when its something that's hard to say. Learn to listen to things that are hard to hear without being defensive. Sex will come and go in any relationship but it is one of the most important things to have. It keeps you close. If you start to lose sex, communicate your concerns clearly without placing blame. If sex is gone for awhile you can always fall back on your friendship with each other to get you through. It will come back if you communicate.
This is a 10,000 book subject. However you should look at some general subjects.


1. Do you have a plan for your life? (i.e. where do you want to be at 55years of age and how ill you get there)


2. Does she have a plan for her life?


3. Does her plan agree with your plan? If they don't then you will probably have problems.


4. Do you see any ';danger signs';? (i.e. bitchyness, severe PMS, mental instability, many broken past relationships, does she have, or has had, any substance abuse problems etc.....).





The list can on and on. I would recommend that you check out the following website. It has all of this covered (and more) for you to have a sucessful marriage.





http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets鈥?/a>





Considering what is at stake here (i.e. child support, alimony and 1/2 of your financial world) you don't have the luxury of making a poor choice!





Good Luck
RUN!
To love another unconditionally is in the striving for, and to.........so get up every day and begin again, love him or her, all over again, from scratch, don't hold grudges, be wide open, and love like a child, without boundaries.....................or at least strive to do these things every day, Amen.
Don't.
DONT...
don't expect it to be all running through the daisies.
Communication communication communication!! Talk and LISTEN. be patient and LOVE and keep showing that you love eachother just take time for you and think before you speak! its not always about you its about the other person too...PICK YOUR BATTLES!!! CONGRATS
Read about some of the problems in this Question and Answer thing then ask yourself if you really want to do this. Some of these questions are depressing, man.....
Don't do it if you have any inkling of any little small doubt at all. Review your motives, and his, and don't be afraid to cancel if you don't think it's right. Don't throw your life away!

Need advice from married/live-in women?

why is it the when a woman first meets a man she screws his brains out then after a a few months she says if u love me then the great sex should not matter. my case i drive an 18 wheeler and i stay away 3 weeks. when i come home i bring flowers, cards and take her to diner, but after that long away i do want to get between the sheets. she will do it but later says im doing what u require of me. in the beginning she was all over me. after the first night home for a couple of nights we lay on the couch cuddle then go to bed with no sex as this pisses her off if i want more than one night. any cluesNeed advice from married/live-in women?
Any glues ! dude they are slapping you in the face...if your away for 3 weeks at a time and when you get back you give her all that plus your undivided attention ,then she is soooooo being serviced during the time your away! My man is gone in camp for weeks at a time ,even after 9 year of marriage,3 kids I still an't keep my hands off him even when he is all smelly and gross as soon as he gets in the door.... ok ok so lets say I'm wrong, then start offering to take her on the road a few times with ya....go have hot sex in some national parks along your route!Need advice from married/live-in women?
what?:
do you have children??..maybe she is tired when you get back..my husband works out of town for months at a time and the 2 times i did not go i wanted to die!!..when he got home i attacked him in like 2 minutes!! but we don't have children yet (i am having our first anyday now)..but still i don't know maybe you should just talk to her about it..
She is probablly secretly resenting you for being on the road for so long at a time. Some women cant say it right out they make you play guessing games. good luck.. I would try to talk to her to get everything out in the open. Im sure when she is most horny you are gone so she gets over it by time you come home... that can probablly be frusterating..
maybe she has some hormonal problems.
The thing about relationships is that they need a lot of nurturing. A mixture of regular oiling and massaging and special occasion events. Every three weeks is way to infrequent and some how you must find a way to do the daily maintenance to enjoy the big crescendo when you want it.
I have no idea why you are married and have this type of job. The reason she is not willing to spread them the minute you walk in the door is because she is upset with you for being away for three weeks and leaving her to deal with the family and home problems by herself. Actually this is a good thing..at least she gives a darn that you are not around. Stop with the flowers (they are only making her feel guilty about being mad at you) Keep in contact with her every single day you are gone (phone or emails) Make sure you always have a family vacation to look forward to.
that really sucks for you but there has to be other issues at play here...how long have you been in this relationship?, any kids? what is her work schedule like??


do you take your time and make sure she enjoys bedtime or get yourself taken care of and be done with it
Hand ?

Contraceptive advice ? Getting Married?

Getting married in a few months ....think to plan family about only after an year after marriage ..... Plz let me know wat all contraceptive options i have .


If I think of taking OCP,s , how long before marriage should be most appropriate to start .?Contraceptive advice ? Getting Married?
For birthcontrol pills, it is said that you should start at least a month before having sexual intercourse. So probably the right time would be now to start any kind of contraceptives. And using condoms is a smart thing to do also, if you're not planning on having kids right away.Contraceptive advice ? Getting Married?
Most oral BC's take a week to a month to gain full effectiveness. You should probably start ASAP. If your period weeks falls on your wedding or honeymoon, you can talk with your doc about skipping your period that month and just starting a new pack of pills. Ask about Yasmin or Yaz because they have very low likliness of causing weight gain side effects. Definitely don't want to gain weight before your big day!!! Good luck! :)
well for me i had an IUD Merina put in, loved it, simple never know it is there last five years . Dr. inserts in office and when you want to try and conceive a child the Dr will remove it simple takes maybe 5 mintues in there office and you can conceive immediately after you have it removed not like other bitrth control have to wait til it leaves your system.. cause there is no drugs involved.. this way you don't have to worry if you missed a pill or anything.. i recomend it highly..
It has been said that marriage is a contraceptive in itself! ;-)
Your contraceptive options are:





The pill


Injection


contraceptive sponge


other leave-ins eg; Mirena


Condom





But I suggest you do some research on the internet and of course talk to your doctor.





Hope this helped.
Congrats first of all!





There are a number of contraceptives out there. I say the best way to pick is to see your gyno and tell her about your history with your cycle and stuff like that. She'll ask you questions, and find the right one for you.





But, there are several choices for you to make on your own. There's Depo - the shot. I wouldn't adivse anyone to take it, but it's a personal choice. With it, you don't get your cycle. Sonds attractive, but has weird side effects including hair loss!


Then there's your regular Ortho Try Cyclen and OTC-Lo. These you take a pill everyday. That can get forgetfull, but they work really good with low side effects. And it also improves acne on the face. Then there's the dreaded patch! Don't take. Too many side effects!





Oh....almost forgot......


You should start oral contraceptives like 3months before you have intercourse. That's to make sure it's working correctly and your are having regular cycles. Cause if not, then you'll need to choose another method strong enough for your body!





But the choice is all yours. Ask your gyno for specific help on what interests you the most though. And don't leave your hubby to be out of the loop. He's gonna want to know what his wife is taking. Just a part of protective husbands!

make up

makeup class

Need advice from married/Divorced People?

We are going to separate and divorce after an year, I feel so lost,sad and scared?


What do I do?


He is so okay with everything and acts so cool.


Am going to uni next month, am 26, Will everything be fine?


I havent told my parents or anyone. He says its wise to say after we get divorced.any advice for me?


Need advice from married/Divorced People?
Honey, let your family in on what's going on in your life. They're a great source of comfort and advice and can be your backbone through this whole thing. You need to have someone in whom you can confide, and family will always be there to fill those shoes. You're divorcing him, so it doesn't matter how 'wise' he thinks it is for you to keep your mouth shut. Sounds like to me, he's afraid of what may happen when they find out.





Yes, Darlin', everything is going to be fine. Your heart will feel like it's broken for a while, but, as in every valley we go through, this too shall pass. (Biblical scripture) Hold your head up, seek support in whomever you feel most comfortable, give your heart time to heal, and then get on with your life. You were ok before he came into your life, and you'll be ok long after he's walked out of it. God will send someone into your life that will knock you off your feet and make you completely forget what's - his - name.





Family sticks together, Hon...go to them and use their shoulders as a soft-spot to land!





God's blessings on you and yours...Always!Need advice from married/Divorced People?
After an indeterminate period of time, when you've had a chance to adjust to not being with him and being single again and perhaps go on a few dates, everything will be fine.


It seems like he's either trying to hide his stress about it, or he might have already emotionally moved past it and not have much stress at all.





Either way, it will make it easier on you to be able to confide in your family before, during, and after the divorce. Going at it alone will only make it harder for you. I've never been through a divorce but my best friend did. She understood that she wanted to leave the guy and didn't really love him as much as knew she should to keep fighting for the marriage but it was still so hard. She cried, he cried, I cried... Even when it makes sense it's still a separation from someone you cared about for a long time.
First off, tell your parents now. It is no longer a good idea to be listening to him and what he thinks you should or shouldn't do. I understand how your feeling as my wife and I recently separated. The key is to take it one day at a time for awhile. You've got uni coming up next month so focus on that and preparing for it. That will help keep you mind off of the current situation. It takes awhile to grieve for the loss of a relationship and then gradually everything will work its self out and start getting better.
don't listen to this jerk. take your life into your own hands and deal with this straight on. come clean with everyone about all this and begin putting your life back together. focus on your mental/emotional health, your career, your family and friends and make your life everything you want it to be without a man in it. don't ever count on a man fulfilling your life. it's up to you to do that. so get busy, move on and begin your new, great life.
I have been where you are now and understand some of your feelings. It is a traumatic event to say the least. i found comfort within a book that was given to me by a friend . to hell with hell, which doesn't sound like a book that deals with your situation or feelings, but it really does. she bought hers on b and n dot com or maybe amazon dot com. I'm sure you can order it from a major book store like Books A Million, Barnes and Noble, Borders and others. I hope you read it because I know it will help you tremendously get through this without as much pain and sorrow as you may expect not having read it. good luck.
It is perfectly normal to feel lost and scared right now. This is a huge step in your life. You will need the support of your family and friends, my suggestion is to talk to them right away. They need to be made aware of what is going on so they can be there to help you, because you will need that support. Good luck and this is a tough thing to have to go through.
You deserve better.Dont live with a man who dont need you.


Get divorced and be free.Doesn't matter you let your folks know it now or later.This is your life.Grow up ! mature..


Be happy that you are out of it..You are lucky this happened now before you started a family and kids and all....


Eveything will be fine...give some time for yourself...


Look for someone who loves you..Trust me you deserve far better ......



Listen friend, u gotta ask urself r u prepared to live ur life with someone u don't love. u r far too young, if ur not happy trust me move on. it seems like a long way but once ur on it u will turn back and see that u made the right decsion. I think it is important for u to inform parents as they will always back u up. take care and god bless
I say talk to someone. It will help maybe not your parents if you feel they will judge. and YES everything will be fine. A divorce is the death of your relationship you need time to go through the 7 steps of grief.





Good luck. Big HUG.
I think you should make up your own mind whether or not you wish to tell your parents. Will they be supportive? If so, you have every right to their support. You certainly need to talk to someone or you may not be in a state to go to university.
No absolutely not, go to your family and friends with this NOW! You need support, and wisdom from someone else. He's trying to force you into a situation where you feel alone, if you have family reach out to them!
Tell people. You need support. People will help you.



This is your first step to true happiness. Good luck
i would tell them now. may be someone can help keep you together, if that is what you both want.

Need advice from married men?

What all does a man need from his wife to be TRUELY happy?


We have been together for 7 years but I am asking this because we have a 7 month old daughter together and I know I don't pay my husband as much attention since she was born. I don't want him to think I am ignoring him He is wonderful to me and I want to make sure I make him happy in every way possible. What is some nice things I can do for him that he will just love?Need advice from married men?
Sorry- I know you asked men this question and I am not a man but here is some advice:





If you are very busy with a young child and you do not have lots of time for your husband, this is understandable and most of us have been through this....make a point to go down on your man twice a week.....you will be a hero and he can't complain.....Need advice from married men?
dont give the child all your attention.....u know what he likes do it.
Remember what turned both of you on when you first met and keep that flame burning.
When we had our first child,i was in cloud nine and my wife got as much attention as the child as i know what she went through for nine months and during the delivery.





I guess a beautiful relationship includes acknowledging what the other half has done in/for the relationship amongst other things. I am sure he is not self centered to think you are ignoring him.
Kiss him a lot. Whenever you get a change, but especially for hello's and good-bye's!





Also, have sex.
its normal u give more attention 2 the newborn 4 now, but truly sex heals all, just give out more and he will be happy
Find a babysitter while he is at work and plan the whole evening for just the two of you. Make your plans thinking of just him, his wants. Then when the night is over take him home and give him a night to remember. Make sure he fells you really want him and you are not doing this out of obligation. Do not pick daughter up until the next morning.
Be the best mother you can to your daughter and do things all together, so as to have some time with the daughter as a family. It would also be nice if the odd time you surprised him by perhaps getting in a sitter for the child and just the two of you go out on a date like you did years ago. Most mature men know that once a child is part of the family that the majority of the attention is going to go towards the new addition. Talk things over with him also and let him know verbally that you are still in love with him and proud to be his mate and life partner. Best of luck to the family.
Don't ask a ton of questions early in the morning, don't always let him initiate sex, and make him a sandwhich from time to time.





Oh, and back rubs are the best.
take him to a sporting event like a basketball game or football game and try to be interested. do some research on the sport so you know what's going on in a game to prevent asking dumb questions all the way through....and as someone else mentioned. SEX. Good luck.
Wake him up with a blo job.
When it comes to dividing the attention between your husband and a child, you are walking a very intricate line. Naturally, the children always come first. However, when a child is crying just to be crying and you know this, then it is your responsibility to not give in. Let the child develop a little independence. While most guys will say sex, there is much more to it than just that. It is walking up behind him and putting your arms around him. Sneaking a kiss on the cheek while he isn't looking. Laying your head on his shoulder while watching television. A man wants to be shown the same affection that a woman shows a child, but in an adult way. It should be your way of letting him know that he has not been replaced.
Be a great mother, but don't put he kid ahead of your relationship with your husband......





Yes, we men are adults and should / can take care of ourselves, but too many women completely neglect their husband after the baby comes into the picture.





Second - have sex with him as often as possible. And no, stating that you WANT to have sex, but are too tired because of the baby (or any other reason) is NOT the same.





Men are physical love creatures. Unlike a woman, you CAN ingore us all day, but give us a great sack session and we will feel as loved as if you were wth us all day long, doing whatever we wanted.





I can't explain WHY this is true - but it is. So use it to your advantage.
just make him feel wanted, put little notes in his lunch or where ever.
Valerie is right, wear some hot looking lingerie and go down on him at least once a week. My wife never takes the initiative to do that to me and it's starting to get old. When a husband sees his wife constantly in Mommy Mode, it takes some extra work to get the husband to see her in sexy mode again. Be a lady in the streets and a whore in the sheets.
when the baby is sleeping show him some loving and talk to him
Treat him like you did before your daughter was born. He's the same man and you're the same woman.
The worst thing to do IMO is put the child first. You are married to the husband, the child will appreciate a mother and father that are devoted to each other.





If not you will have a whinny child and a big ole wedge between you and your husband.





Oh yeah, take the baby out of the room especially if the baby sleeps between you.
You know that! Pay attention when he needs you! i mean make sure he wont get lonely..
Food %26amp; Sex. That will make him more than happy.





Valerie- Thats a very good statement. I agree 100%/ I give my guy head about 4-5x a week (weve been together for 2 yrs) and he absoluley LOVES me...lol
No joke: Make love. All the gifts in the world are NOTHING compared to when your wife comes to you. In most relationships the husband is the one doing the persuing, it's in our nature. So, when the shoe is on the other foot, it brings back a little bit of the excitement. That's all you really need to do. It's sad, but us men are really that simple.
Give him sex untill he can't stand it, for starters and you dont even have to give an academey awards performance, just act like you like it at least.
have sex with him oftenly
The circumstances don't matter. Take an honest look at all the married couples you know are any of them still in love?!?!? NO and most of them are miserable. We all lie to ourselves and play the role even though we are not happy.
Make him dinner, and have great sex with him.