My husband sucks at giving gifts. Any Advice married ladies?

I just got married last October. When it comes to Christmas and birthdays, I'm on it, I really think about what he would like and make it happen. He on the other hand just gets gifts that would make him happy. Or sometimes he's just really cheap about it.





He honestly thought that lingerie and going to a baseball game was a good gift for my birthday.





Is he selfish or am I expecting too much?My husband sucks at giving gifts. Any Advice married ladies?
hahaha, ';lingerie and going to a baseball game was a good gift ';. that made me laugh.


go to a website(or two) that you like and start a ';wish list'; then bookmark for him and write the password down for him.


he can pick something you like and you'll still be surprised.





btw, if people say its just about you being ungrateful, forget about it.


Most men would admit they dont know what you like until you tell or show them, on all levels.My husband sucks at giving gifts. Any Advice married ladies?
Did you tell him what you wanted or did you just hint? Men can be pretty ignorant sometimes. I've found the best way to get what I want is to specifically say to him Honey I want this for my b/day. Then I point it out to him in the store. Heck, I've even gone as far as buying my own present, wrapping it and then having the kids tell him that's what they want to give me. Not as much fun, I know, but at least you get what you want. Or you can try the passive/aggressive- reverse psychology type. He gives you gifts he wants on your birthday, so do the same to him. On his birthday give him gifts you want!
I kind of get this. It sounds selfish to complain when someone gets you a gift because the fact is they spent money on you, so it seems rude. But sometimes someone gets you a gift and you wonder if they were hoping you'd give it back so they could use it.





The baseball tickets is a hard thing, especially if you don't usually watch it. I think the only thing to do would be to go, and if he asks if you enjoyed yourself say something like ';Thanks so much for the thought, but I am not sure baseball is really my thing. I really loved the gift though.'; That way he knows you appreciate the gift but maybe not do that again.





Try to look at the lingerie as somethig he was hoping to share with you. He thought it would look good on you, he wants to see his woman looking sexy for him. You want to look good for him right?
You sound like such a baby. You are selfish and yes expecting too much. Your also very controlling. Why can't you love this man for who he is? Do you honestly think that if he gave you a gift that you demanded and requested that it would have any meaning. Accept what he gives you from who he is not from who you want him to be. Most men don't get into the whole thing of gift giving, shopping etc. I think that he gave you lingerie and baseball tickets was a sweet gesture on his part and you didn't even appreciate it. This is sad to me. I feel so sorry for your husband who seems to never be able to please his demanding wife.
I don't think he is selfish necessarily. Maybe he gets you things he would like because he believes that you would like it. You haven't been married that long. My husband is not the best gift giver and I am okay with that. You may have to be crystal clear about what you want for birthdays/holidays. Write a list for him and tell him ';here are some ideas of what I might want';.





Men sometimes just don't get it and needs us to help them along.
This is what you do. BUY the gift you want, MAKE THE RESERVATIONS at the place you want to go, and WRAP the gift for him to give to you at the restaurant.





If he isn't good enough for you, then do it all for him. You'll probably have to do a lot of ';taking care of yourself'; anyway.
Tell him that you are making an appointment for him at the doctor as he appears to have unusual memory problems. Most people remember stuff after being told once or twice.





If this is not his problem, you need to have a sit down with him and talk to him about what he expects. It's plain selfishness IMHO.
he's still new at this. try not to be too upset. the new guys always thing lingerie is a good gift. FOR THEM! the ball game? well, maybe he really thought you'd enjoy it. i wouldn't call him selfish, just a bit clueless. he'll get better in time
I'd be happy with lingerie and tickets to a Sox game.





Stop being such an ungrateful primadonna. It's the thought that counts.
Im not married but my parents do the same thing. My mom just drops hints on my dad.
He sounds a bit selfish. Hint at things you want/like.
Men rarely give good gifts.Get the money he is gona spend on you and buy your own gift,it's a lot better that way.
he never gave you ONE gift before you got married?





he suddenly sprung this shitty gift-giving thing on you AFTER the ceremony?





*you* married him - *you* potty train him.





or you can just whine all day about him not being Prince Edward. because the whining solves so much.





oh so you add you dropped 20 hints.





so you fell in love with and married a - - - how did you describe him? dense inconsiderate incompetent asshole? boy can you pick 'em, honey!





By the way, cupcake, it's spelled THAI food so perhaps next year he can look it up correctly.





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