My wife's mother died before I met my wife. At times I wonder if not having a mother to go to about marital conflicts makes it harder on my wife.Do married women get much good advice about their relationship with their husband from their mom?
WELL I THINK IT DEPENDS ON THE MOM ANS WHAT KIND OF ADVICE SHE WOULD GIVE B/C WHEN MY MOM GIVES ME ADVICE SOME IS GOOD AND SOME IS BADDo married women get much good advice about their relationship with their husband from their mom?
I'm sure it does, but honestly there are a lot of bad mother-in-laws out there. Sometimes, they cause a lot of relationship trouble by their words of wisdom. I hope she has someone else to talk to, though, because times do get hard when you're married. It was always nice to complain to my mom about my ex hubby, but all that did was make her not like him. So, just be there for your wife, and if it seems like she gets down or aggrevated or something, just be patient with her.
My mom and dad's marriage was a constant battle over money and bills. My parents were married 53 years. My entire childhood I wished they would divorce, but dad didn't believe in it.
I would never go to my mom for help in any relationship. I turned to my older sister once or twice, but most of the time I talked to friends my age.
It depends on how old she was when her mother died, but in general women do get great advice from their mother's, if they are not troubled themselves. I would say, if she's missing her mother because she needs advice about marital problems, then she should ask her dad. Especially if her parents had a loving, happy relationship before her mother's death. Plus her dad can give her insight into how a man thinks, but still have his baby girl's heart in mind.
Actually it makes it easier if one should have a medling mother. I don't talk to my mother about my marriage and didn't when I was married the first time. I like it that way.
It all depends on what type of person her mum was. I would never ask mine for ANY advice. She has been married 3 times and all 3 were abusive relationships!
Mothers try but mine has never helped in that department.
it could but im sure she has plenty of friends that are married and she can talk to, see im married and i dont talk to my mother about this stuff cuz she never really liked my husband to begin with and if i were to say oh me and him had a fight i wud just hear i told u not to marry him and blah blah blah...in a way having a mom to talk to can be good but also bad.....im sure she has plenty of outlets and people to discuss this stuff with, maybe u can be supportive of her and really try to talk things out with her if u have an arguement, its sweet of u to be so concerned!
Personally I find it hard to go to my mother in law. If I didn't have my own my I would just go to my friends or my sisters. It depends on how close she is with your mother and if she feels like she could talk to your mom without her telling you everything she says.
XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX moms are great people to talk to but i rarely talk to my mom about my marriage. A girlfriend is a better choice. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
I never go to my mom about marital conflicts, but I do ask my grandmother. It probably is hard for her not to have anyone to trun to when you two fight. But hopefully she has a good circle of freinds that she can trust.
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