Need marriage advice...married for almost 4 years...?

I don't even know where to begin but I've been thinking about getting a divorce from my husband now since our son has been born.(He's 9 mo. old) After he was born I just didn't like how my husband fathered our son and things between he and I changed a lot too. My husband is a loving father, he just doesn't interact with our son as much I'd like and seems to put work ahead of us. He is in the military, which is another argument with us. My concern is that I have a lot to do with his behavior though. I'm constantly comparing him to my father and he just can't seem to measure up. I guess my main concerns in a nutshell are:


1) I'd like him to be a more active father with our son


2) I'd like him to be a more loving and attentive husband


3) Put family 1st


4) To stop making me feel less than all the time


He's a good man it just seems like his head is in the clouds sometimes. Please don't mention counseling, were going to try it.Need marriage advice...married for almost 4 years...?
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